That, really.
When arguments between us happen (as they do in a marriage) DH gets some weird validation from involving other people. If there are people around anyway, he asks what they think and gives them a one-sided view.
Dinners with friends are littered with comments like "oh, well that's what thefatandthefursious could spend her time doing if she wasn't busy being so insecure...." Or in a conversation while out to dinner with his business colleagues talking about data security, "Well thefatandthefurious read my texts messages once and saw something from an ex and whipped it into a froth. Spoiled a perfectly nice evening, as usual."
Obviously if I then fight back when he does this we look like some jaded couple who always takes swipes at each other, so I hold back and laugh it off and pretend it's not big deal, although I'm seething inside about how he's misrepresented me to other people.
When there is no one around he will call his mother, present a really one-sided view of a discussion we're having and then tell her to hold and say to me "my mother thinks you are overreacting."
Is there a word for someone like this?
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how can i stop DH from airing our dirty laundry?
thefatandthefurious · 26/08/2013 14:39
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