My exH and I live 150 miles apart and have 2 DCs. He is an alcoholic and has just completed his third residential rehab. He currently lives with his parents, with whom our DCs have a wonderful relationship.
I made the choice to move here to be closer to my family and the move has been good for me and the DCs. It also allows me to be financially self-sufficient.
ExH is talking about moving into a flat for recovering addicts. I assume it is some sort of supported living arrangement. I do not want the DCs in this environment.
Up until now our DCs have spent half terms and half of the summer hold staying with ex PILs. I trust them and would prefer this arrangement to continue for the foreseeable future. If ex requires supported living I cannot see that he will be able to care for 2 demanding boys.
We have nothing legal agreed and I'd like a reasonable plan in place to propose as I intend to proceed with our divorce. Whilst I get he is their father I want to limit unsupervised contact. Does this sound reasonable? He has attempted suicide a few times but I have no idea of his MH currently or whether he is drinking.
I definitely want the boys to have contact with ex pils.
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Llareggub · 22/08/2013 11:57
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