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Don't know what to do / think

(27 Posts)
ReptonLane Thu 22-Aug-13 07:16:24

Last night 'D'H was due to be going out with colleagues after work in Soho. He got in just after 10pm and was absolutely hammered and had lipstick on his collar... I pointed this out and he said he knew I would notice but it wasn't what I thought so I left it at that, felt reasonably comfortable that it was most likely innocent, and took him upstairs to put him to bed. He suddenly gets all anxious about where his phone, and when he finds it I see he has an unread text and gut instinct tells me something isn't right by his behaviour / reaction so I ask to see his phone. On his phone is a message from him to some women I've never heard him mention before which is sexually explicit and her response basically saying she can't wait.

He is far too hammered to have a sensible / any conversation with but mumbles something about only just having met her, going to a strip club and it was the beer talking. Despite wanting to talk to him about it and find out WTF is going on I leave it as I know any attempts at conversation will be futile.

This morning he has got up and gone to work, I wouldn't let him near me and I can tell he thinks I am overreacting and that a simple sorry will suffice.

I'm 8 months pregnant with twins and have had less than 2 hours sleep. I feel wretched and think he will try and turn it round on me and somehow make it out to be partly my fault, because he feels neglected / sexually frustrated etc. I deleted the messages off his phone but took a photo of them and emailed them to him to his work account saying he had a lot of explaining to do.

I don't know what to do, I have no one in RL I can talk to and I can't speak to my mum about it as she constantly teeters on the edge of disliking him (no real reason as to why, I think it's more along the lines that no one is good enough for her precious girl). We have been together 6 years, married for 2 and he is generally a good husband. I have had a very difficult pregnancy and he has been very supportive throughout and does plenty round the house to help.

He needs to be an absolute fucking angel for the forseeable. He's got a lot to make up. I hope he's man enough.

The trust is never the same although it is save able if both parties want to.

Thing with me is I always look back at my pregnancy and remember what he did, he ruined a special memory for me and when we look back I always wonder if talking about it reminds him of her. That will be with me forever sad

Good luck with everything op, I truly wish you the best of luck.

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