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Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

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Kirstywirsty Tue 20-Aug-13 16:37:56

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

dontcallmehon Tue 20-Aug-13 16:40:42

Hi can I join? New to datimg and need wise words

Hi there! Quick Q, has anyone been to a match.com evening? Have been invited to one but not sure what they are like and it's not that local.

kittykat10 Tue 20-Aug-13 16:55:56

Yeah your right about ex I'll ignor his day off text this week !

Good work kitty grin
Not been to a match event though I was invited. It's the kind of thing I couldn't face alone!

So I didn't buy mr hot and cold a present and now I want to. We had another big heart to heart and after this one I don't feel anxious about things any more. I told him the whole thing makes me feel v vulnerable and he said 'I know this is why I don't contact you all the time - I'm scared it will overwhelm you and freak you out' - which explains a lot really.

Wagonwheels Tue 20-Aug-13 17:27:53

Hello new thread - and new people smile

Ham sounds like a quality chat - maybe you can bring him a late pressie next time? smile

Flo so are you planning to see Mr T again? His chattiness about himself could have been nerves... Or are you sensing otherwise?

If you feel fine about meeting Mr Flash with your DCs, then go for it. Think it was Kin who mentioned earlier though, that you might find it more difficult to focus on him, and work out if you like him enough for another date?

superdooperpenguin Tue 20-Aug-13 17:41:39

Ok, I fear I have just behaved like an unstable woman! POF guy I've been seeing for 3 mths, "doesn't do labels" so won't officially be my boyfriend ( I know I sound 14!!). He's been setting off alarm bells in my head so I did a search on POF and he's on there, apparently online today. I know he might just have been checking an email out of interest but I'm quite pissed off he's still looking! So I set up a fake profile and messaged him to see if he replies! Yes I know I sound creepy but I'm so fed up of being messed around by men!

What do you think - time to cut my losses or wait and see what happens re. Message?

kittykat10 Tue 20-Aug-13 17:44:46

I did same lol looked at ex profile and he looked at mine so much for not being in right place , I did it out poo f curiosity lol

DadfromUncle Tue 20-Aug-13 17:51:12

Hi all - just a quick check in - can't believe how fast and furious things are on here at the mo. My "news" is there isn't any. POF woman who sent me a "hey there" (which happens when you press one of the buttons I think" and who I messaged hasn't replied. Saw one other woman I liked the look of and may message her later in the week. Had another "hey there" from a woman with an out of focus selfie in which she looks angry and another where she looks unhinged and with whom I appear to have zero in common judging by her profile, oh well, onwards and upwards. WFF things are sounding good. Lorna am jealous of pashing but wish you every pash smile to all.

49howdidthathappen Tue 20-Aug-13 17:51:41

I took the afternoon off, bought cake and went to my mums. Her partner, my sister and day carer were there. We all had tea and cake. We sang Happy Birthday. Mum joined in. Made my day smile

Just seeing Mr R&R is more than enough for me. My mum had her stroke just after we got together. It has been a tough time. He has never wavered in his support for me. He is the love of my life. God. I'm a soppy cow these days blush

A great big thankyou for the birthday messages. You Rock grin

DadfromUncle Tue 20-Aug-13 17:56:00

Oh, and welcome dontcallme and travel

dontcallmehon Tue 20-Aug-13 17:57:28

Hi all, just posted a thread titled 'don't know what to make of this' about POF guy who is giving me mixed signals. Cancelled another date with handsome doctor (date 2) as I like hot and cold guy, but I saw sense and rearranged for next week.

Kirstywirsty Tue 20-Aug-13 18:24:58

Well what do you think of this? FoF had told me he is testing the waters for a job in fucking Devon !! He talked about wanting to retire there or if he got made redundant he would consider it once his girls are older (youngest is 15) .. I think I definitely need to cool things off a bit or I'm going to get badly hurt .. Or should I just go for it ( as I have been) and take my chances???

Winefiend Tue 20-Aug-13 18:25:20

OWW Ah we shall seeeee! Actually, until my last visit where I was a proper hoor I hadn't engaged in coitus with any of us jocks since I was a teenager. Oor Ken only half counts as he is half Glasgwegian and a massive prick.

Welcome new folks grin

49, that sounds like an absolutely lovely birthday cake

Winefiend Tue 20-Aug-13 18:26:52

Oh kirsty, that is so tricky. I think all you can do is have a chat with him really and tell him how you are feeling about the whole thing.

sad

kittykat10 Tue 20-Aug-13 18:39:17

Think I've messed up I tested asking if he'd ever been married

49howdidthathappen Tue 20-Aug-13 18:55:07

Tough one Kirsty Maybe you need to pull back a bit. Just to protect yourself.

Kitty Can't see why that would that bother anyone.

Bant Tue 20-Aug-13 18:56:09

hon this thread is the perfect place for you smile and welcome.

People will check their profiles, or not, after a date. Either could mean good things or bad things. There really isn't any telling which is which. But don't invest too soon. Let the bullshit wash over you, and only get involved when someone has earned it

49howdidthathappen Tue 20-Aug-13 18:56:49

One too many 'that' there. Time I was gone.

Kitty I don't follow?
V tempted to POF stalk Mr h and c but might not like the result. I know he was in there though, he told me.

I am baffled by the etiquette re od when you are seeing someone. Is retaining a profile a crime?

kittykat10 Tue 20-Aug-13 19:14:36

It was some thing I'd not asked of him I'd got in my head he maybe

superdooperpenguin Tue 20-Aug-13 19:16:59

I don't know what OD etiquette is, I just assumed once sleeping together it meant exclusive? Maybe a big mistake on my part! Fearing the worse, I seem to pick total idiots!

I have no idea if I'm going to be able to keep up with this thread!

Superdooper I wouldn't assume anything.

Bant Tue 20-Aug-13 19:27:51

Penguin - I think sleeping together is a natural place for the exclusivity chat, if only for health purposes, but you can't assume anything.

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