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The Pyscopath is starting again?

(147 Posts)
CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 01:19:27

If anyone knows me please dont out me. To frightened to use old MN name.

It has been a wonderful few months or should I say nearly a year of peace. No trouble at all since 2012.

I had made plans with help info from here. My main goal to move to be free from any more threats to my and dc life.

Told by mortgage advisor I do not earn enough. They asked did I get maintanence as this counted as wages!

As I dont I thought I would apply as ex doesnt live in UK. I was 100% sure CSA would just say ex moved abroad and close case. I have not heard back from CSA mind you so this could be the outcome. This was 2 weeks ago.

Anyway my senses have gone in overdrive last few days and cant sleep. I decided to check ex blog and low and behold! The title refers to me. His NN for me since we split. The most freaky thing was ( so not even the demonic voice put on) was a weird american sounding childs voice (possible digital enhanced?) of child referring to ex using the nickname I had for ex when we were together (many many years ago).

ex names a night of an attack, but it refers to via FB?

Now thing is if I go to the police they will lock ME up thinking I am nuts!

Welcome to Gas Lighting Infurno <sigh>

Any tips/slaps/hugs welcome as my PTSD has returned 10 fold! But hoping the hypervigilence will keep me awake\alive

TramadolDaze Tue 20-Aug-13 20:24:13

I remember you. Why can't you post in your old NN? I'm afraid it's crystal clear from the get-go who you are so if he's looking for you it won't be too hard. I know in the past you've been advised repeatedly by the wise people here to stop looking at his shit online but you don't. You just keep on doing it. YOU and you alone are permitting him to get to you - if that is his intention. He just sounds like a nutjob to me but you're making him out to be the High Priest of Evil when really he's nothing of the sort and if you'd only stop googling him and reading his blog then he couldn't touch you.
Also I remember that incident when you thought it was him outside but I also remember that it was never proven was it? Could have been anyone but you're making it him and so once more allowing him into your head. The power to change all this in in YOUR hands.

Hissy Brazil Tue 20-Aug-13 20:29:28

Do you have any savings?

When is that home buying scheme for existing properties coming into operation?

Why not get a letting agent to come and value your property? Let them make a comment on if the cctv'd put people off?

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 20:31:58

Oh that is super amazing you found me OLKN as have not had issues since 2012! WOW thank you and the oldies to still see here like Lewg and HH! Didn't even know if you were still here as not been here much as life going so well/quiet!

Ex says about meeting up on FB on Sat night to cause the most evil type attack. Then it is religious music of St Peter and then it is ex speaking in tongue possibly backwards eek!

I know police will have the biggest laugh of 2013 if I go into that station sad

An all nighter it is...just like the old days <sigh> I think it is possibly more online and evil spells to make me disappear?

Do you think he is into Satan then OLKN? Or does the deluded twurp think he actually is Satan? Or is he calling me Satanshock

Can I ask for marker on my property without giving a reason???

OldLadyKnowsNothing Tue 20-Aug-13 20:39:04

I think he's still into Satanism but I'm not sure if his delusions have escalated into thinking he is Satan. But I completely understand why it's freaked you out. Can you see his FB page?

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 20:42:10

HH I think my credit history is poor because I have not long started work. Home buying scheme is in England only (I was first to enquire I think as so chuffed to get help <sigh>)
Oh I bought new car too....in hope if ex came close he'd think I had moved as different car on drive. SO credit history not long in work is the trouble now <bangs head against wall>
No savings and worse off in work tbh! But it was a great distraction and an escape from this prison! Can't wait to return after hols and leave this house.

A car alarm went off in street early hours HH I hit the ceiling nearly from shock and fear.

Tramadol I swear I was good for several months and well a blessing something made me check as twunt is up to no good again. I was hoping ex would only look for my NN if ex searches at all.

HarrietSchulenberg Tue 20-Aug-13 20:43:40

I'm not quite sure what you think he's going to do on Facebook. Is it to coordinate something physical or a cyber attack on your page?

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 20:46:51

No I don't have FB.

He is planning some evil satanic stuff on their on Sat night though!

Can you access it OLKN (sorry to ask)?

I wish a psychiatrist could get to him before Saturday <sigh> he is a troubled, loner with nothing to lose who blames me for everything in his life including his disabled ds and dd with 2nd wife!

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 20:53:55

Harriet he talks about getting together on FB like a prayer group but not for God but for Satan and carry out some evil stuff together as a strong group...so it works better??I dont know never been that way inclined. However I do not have a FB page but planning to do something not nice over FB! It was the last sentence I was worried about that made me think linked to me...as it was his NN by me.

I hope and pray I could be totally wrong!

Tram police didnt want to know when I had CCTV of ex driving up and down at night slowly starring into house from car! I have wittnesses too 3 on one day alone.

I hope I don't die of fright on Saturday night if I hear a bell going off outside sad

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 21:06:50

Anyone know about Satanism? Do they do prayer groups? What's the bells about?

Might post this somewhere else as doubt anyone with experience on MN grin...I'll have to join an online Satan group (may God forgive me!)

OLKN do you think he is coming over to attack or as it states just an internet thing? (I'm catholic how in God's name did I not see what he was? Told me he was non religious and never listened to ex going on about Crawley at the time)

OLKN ex has got worse with age...this is a bad sign as Psychopaths usually mellow with age! But I guess the psychosis of being supreme (Statan and High Priest etc etc) is most worrying.

That was his voice doing the 'Tongue' talk over the music. OLKN on a score of 0 to 10 how dangerous is ex at moment? Is this common murderous behaviour in DV situations?

I have not heard another case similar and wish I had to have someone else who knows! How they coped with this for years? How they protected themselves?

The one bed HH was in a gated CCTV community...perfect <sob>

OldLadyKnowsNothing Tue 20-Aug-13 21:12:12

I've searched FB for his name, but as you know, it's not an uncommon one. None of the results seemed to be him (wrong locations etc) but he might simply have his privacy settings pretty secure.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Tue 20-Aug-13 21:17:47

X posted... I really don't want to worry you, but my friend's ex escalated after he got bloody married, when you'd think he'd be all loved-up with the new victim wife, and he's still not backing down with his accusations. Friend is lucky, she has fantastic support from the authorities, but they've seen what he's done and what he's like, whereas, as you say, it makes you look mad when you try to describe your ex.

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 21:29:43

OMG OKLN so this man was trying to show off to new wife maybe? Show wife who is boss too and frighten her now trapped married! The Narcs true colours were free to be exposed as legally bonded!

Ex has tried every trick possible with authorities as you know! Everything about ex I try to discuss makes me sound mad! I can't open my mouth! Not ONE word! What ever angle I use! I stopped reporting the abuse years ago as it mad me look Cuckoo!
How does he do it? I mean I have tried to stay ahead but ex checkmates with his tactics.

"Hi Officer my ex who is a Satanist is holding an all nighter to try and destroy me via evil spells' HAHAHAHAHAHA! Makes EastEnders look like Waybaloo!

Your friend is lucky she lives in an authority that understands Gas lighting etc. She has the law behind her. I am lucky I have CCTV for now. My ex too clever to go to authorities but doing it around the garden to frighten me so if I do report it I am an unbalanced mother as too crazy to be true AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

Allice Tue 20-Aug-13 21:30:06

Sounds awful, you poor love. Is there anywhere you can go this weekend just to make sure you're safe?
I know you probably don't to run away but better to be safe.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Tue 20-Aug-13 21:34:11

Ah, new wife is still all loved up, she hasn't "seen" him yet. And she's up the duff, too. sad Things can only get worse there.

Can you go and have a word with a friendly priest, who might be better placed to understand demonic threats?

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 21:34:20

Sorry OLKN been a whilesmile

Oh the only person who understood my ex in 'authorities' and said how extremely dangerous he was is now not around due to governement cuts I think? I will try and speak to her before Saturday though as worked in this field 40 yrs and she could describe ex to me how his personality was before I even really explained! She was only one who 'got it' and contacted police etc for more support for me as regional manager in position too....fingers crossed she is still their as she saved mine and ds life CCTV!

waltzingmathilda Tue 20-Aug-13 21:36:03

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OldLadyKnowsNothing Tue 20-Aug-13 21:37:19

Oh, that sounds promising, hope you can find her again. Just having someone who understands makes a difference.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Tue 20-Aug-13 21:38:36

And what a fortuitous xpost with waltzing. <rolls eyes>

NoToast Tue 20-Aug-13 21:43:23

You're obviously very frightened and can't deal with this alone. Can you speak to Women's Aid about a refuge place for you on Saturday night? Also it may help you to speak to a priest as you suggested or look for a helpful catholic organisation.

CCTVmum Tue 20-Aug-13 22:08:55

Allice I would love to go away for weekend but ds has home education on Monday so we need to be home and with BH Weekend I am worried ex may be over as that is when he usually comes home (for long weekend of drinking) and want to protect my home too. Then the cost of going away I am broke for this unforeseen event.

Oh Dear OLKN is this the same ex! Trying to build his ego by bullying your friend infront of pregnant wife...yep next victim if she dares challenge him!

Yes I forgot about Regional Manager of Victim Support! Will do this before Saturday. Fingers crossed!

Notoast great idea...but if I go to WA they involve Social Services and if I tell Social Services why I need refuge...well alike Waltzin they think I am bonkers! It's lose lose which ever way I turn!

It's ok Waltzin I expect this response from 'authorities'. So I will shut up now about it and wait! I just hope you never ever have to be in this position as you do not believe it otherwise so I don't blame you for not understanding gas lighting and other tactics a psychopath often uses when the early reporting etc fails.

Thanks to others and hopefully I will have a quiet Saturday night! Catch up Saturday night feel better/stronger for the support of you lovely ladies!

SunshineBossaNova Wed 21-Aug-13 00:14:33

Hello lovely I remember you from before. He really is vile, isn't he?

<proffers hand>

HoopersGinger Wed 21-Aug-13 00:26:09

You don't sound paranoid OP. 1 yr through a 2 yr restraining order for similar here. FB, blog, calls to child line, harassment, surveillance, stalking.

You know how it is with the police. Sorry to be rude but avoid incredulous bobbies and go through Behind Closed Doors and they will ask your local Safeguarding Unit to contact you. They will take this seriously.

GingerBlondecat Wed 21-Aug-13 02:34:49

all I've got is ((((((((((((soft Hugs))))))))))) and Love and Prayers.

I am so sad this is continuing (remember you) <3

CCTVmum Wed 21-Aug-13 03:11:38

thank you for the hugs means a lot GingerBlonde.
Sunshine rotten to the core so many people remembering my ex situation on such a busy thread is such a bad sign.

Thank you Hoopers for sharing that. Thankfully you have excellant services in your area. What will happen in another year?
or are you just hoping he will now stop as pattern broken. Trouble is sounds like your ex wants to control and keep in contact etc so different type of abuser. My ex just wants me dead so he doesnt have to pay CSA and has someone he carn take his bad days out on.

We sadly dont have Behind Closed Doors here, but we have Womens Safety Unit.

I was basically blamed and told it was my fault by Womans safety unit because I applied for maintance through court years before.
Its not normal....to get Arson attempts and threats like that! The sick tunes to frighten me etc.

I cant believe I checked last in 2012 and then ex posts that a day or less less before I get a gut feeling.

Got to start preping for Sat night now!

UptheChimney Wed 21-Aug-13 05:55:58

I think it would be best if you never checked his blog again. It's only going to get you into a vicious circle of being scared, checking his blog, being even more scared, checking his blog again

I don't know your background (newish to MN) but the other main reason you shouldn't read his blog is because most blogging software can allow blog owners to see the IP addresses from which readers log on, and also the route they used to get there (eg through Google Analytics). So he may have recognised something in your computer's IP address.

There are ways to disguise it, but I don't know how -- someone else in here, or on another section of MN, may be able to help you about that.

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