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Massive row feel like I've been battered

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Dearjackie Sat 03-Aug-13 20:05:16

I have written a few threads on here as I struggle with this relationship I'm in, or was in. I find it hard to explain how I feel and the hold he has had over me. Slowly the fog is lifting but I still feel there is some hold there and I don't know why and don't understand myself

I've had a horrible experience today and really need to talk but am to ashamed to speak to anyone in RL. Had a lovely day out with'DP' and when we visited his sister she asked what his stbxw was doing today. I know I can be touchy about this sometimes but it annoys me that she is always brought up and I said so to DP on the way home. BIG mistake! All I really wanted was for him to say he understands its annoying for me and maybe that he finds it a bit irritating too. But oh no a huge row starts and as always his way of trying to shut me up and shut the argument/ discussion down is to say " finish with me then". So sick of hearing this I said fine.

We got back to mine, he packed his stuff, some nasty things were said. I have paid a non returnable deposit £400 for a holiday and he had given me his share which I hadn't banked yet and he demanded it back. I had to give it as he was looking through my drawers. He starts to drive off but keeps coming in and put with various excuses. Then he phoned his sister in front of me on loudspeaker and told her all that had happened making himself the innocent party of course. I still feel in shock with it all. I've never had a row with anyone like that and to involve a third party like that I don't know what he's trying to do. I know it's a totally dysfunctional relationship. I feel emotionally battered and bruised yet numb at the same time. He keeps trying to phone but I won't answer. I'm a mess. Don't really know what I want people to say I just had to get it out.

Anniegetyourgun Tue 24-Sep-13 20:00:33

It's the sort of antics that are supposed to be thought endearing when the "hero" of a romantic comedy does them hmm Creepy in the extreme. But what wonderful DCs you have.

Jux Tue 24-Sep-13 21:15:32

Oh, your children are lovely! You have brought them up well.

Dearjackie Tue 24-Sep-13 21:18:25

Thank you yes I think they are wonderful too smile

BerylStreep Sat 05-Oct-13 15:46:13

Hi Jackie I hope all is going well for you. I check the thread every so often, and I really hope you are enjoying your new freedom. x

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