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Am I being unnessecarily suspicious?

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PrincessCork Thu 01-Aug-13 19:48:15

Background. My DP is a Finance Director for a moderate sized company. They are currently expanding and restructuring and so have a lot of work on.

so hes actually away from home this week (3 hrs drive) hes been talking about what they are doing. thats remortgaging a couple of the businesses. he was supposed to be at a solicitors yesterday to do paperwork and sign but they postponed to today at 2 then pushed to 5 then 7. now he just messaged to say the solicitor said he would be lucky to be finished T midnight.

does this all sound viable? im not a business person so i dont know.

im a little suspicious. why wouldnt the solicitor put it off till tomo.

it means hes likely not going to get home tonight now.

he has form for using a dating website about 4 yrs ago when we first met and i prob have been more suspicious since i found out about that. (only found out about the deception 2 yrs ago.

What do u think am i being over suspicious????

lemonstartree Thu 01-Aug-13 19:54:24

it sounds all too viable wrt the business /signing stuff. very common - although usually would be delayed till tomorrow rather that later and later unless there was an important reason.

if you dont trust him however, you have other problems I think?

Legals can run into the night if there is a deadline. Unusual though, and it tends to be on mergers and acquisitions stuff rather than internal restructuring.

PrincessCork Thu 01-Aug-13 20:12:31

Hmm. That's what I thought. He sent me a photo of one of the solicitors and his business partner in an office. That made me more suspicious than reassured me.

welshharpy Thu 01-Aug-13 20:34:09

Could ask him to skype you sometime tonight when he gets time, might be easier to see if something is amiss if you are looking at him square in the eye?
Sending a pic of him in an office just sounds odd...

PrincessCork Thu 01-Aug-13 21:28:37

hmmm. i suggested a quick facetime before inhead upmtombed and he said he cant as hes in the solicitor office. hmmmm.

PrincessCork Thu 01-Aug-13 21:29:05

i have asked why they didnt put it off till tomo. he wont give me a straight answer.

DHtotalnob Thu 01-Aug-13 21:29:56

agree with worse. All-nighters are not usual for internal stuff unless the company has some weird year-end (like today).

Mixxy Thu 01-Aug-13 21:30:45

A picture of an office? WTF?

DHtotalnob Thu 01-Aug-13 21:33:11

just a thought - does he also own some of the company? Owner managed small firms sometimes have to micromanage to that extent, especially if there's is a debt or cashflow issue.

PrincessCork Thu 01-Aug-13 21:33:17

so u think this is weird yes?

PrincessCork Thu 01-Aug-13 21:34:08

he isnt answering txts now but keeps sending random ones like the last one was zzzzzz and when i asked what was happening he hasnt replied.

Doozle06 Thu 01-Aug-13 21:34:15

Maybe one of the parties isn't available tomorrow so they need to get it done tonight.
Not sure why I'm making excuses for him, I'd think it was pretty suss myself...

reggiebean Thu 01-Aug-13 21:40:03

Just recently had a mate who was dealing with the same situation in his job, and yes, deadlines were constantly being moved and rearranged. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about x

PrincessCork Thu 01-Aug-13 21:54:31

i think im being silly. sure if he was up to no good he would just say h has to stay away tonightbyet he messaged to say he was coming home whatever times hey finish.

futuredad Thu 01-Aug-13 22:01:57

OP - I know from first hand experience that deals like this are often sorted out with "all-nighters" (usually at a solicitor's office) while the various documents - hundreds, if not thousands of pages, are run through with the proverbial fine tooth comb.

If your DP only needs to do one all-nighter he will be able to count themselves lucky. The most recent one I was involved in took at least three of them!

DHtotalnob Thu 01-Aug-13 22:05:45

an all-nighter just for remortgaging? really?

however, if he's making the effort to come home then that sounds much more likely to be true. you (I) live and learn ........

Chubbymomie2012 Thu 01-Aug-13 22:18:54

ok. Thamks peepsmi feel much better now having talked it over. xxx

futuredad Thu 01-Aug-13 22:20:08

DHtotal - it would probably be better to describe it as "refinancing" and it is far more detailed a process than someone re-mortgaging their house.

It wouldn't be that much of a stretch for this deal to involve a number of different banks, each with their own sets of documents for signing for facilities into the "high-tens" of millions - if not more.

LittlePeaPod Thu 01-Aug-13 22:39:37

Depends on the deal and very much depends on the deadline but its not unusual for deals to run late into the night.. All depends on what the business is doing really.

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