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Feeling pretty teary though wonder if I am being selfish

(27 Posts)
MissStrawberry Tue 30-Jul-13 18:14:38

I needed a friend the other week and texted a friend. She replied she was out with friends and about to eat so I said would talk later. She later acknowledged that she felt she wasn't there for me when I needed her. (I rarely ask for support and it would have been clear I needed some.) I didn't mention it when I replied to her letter as tbh I am fed up of feeling like I have to put her feelings first even when I do need support but didn't want to bring it up again.

Today I had devastating news so texted an initial hi, how are you text. Didn't want to send a big text if she wasn't going to get it or be in a position to reply. I get back that she has been to hospital and really needs to go to bed. I say to her to rest and we will talk later. I ask if all okay.

I know I could have told her my news and asked for support and my choice not too. My choice to put her first. But tbh I feel like crap after the bad news and just wish I did have support.

I can take it if I should just ask for help even if she has had a tough day too but really don't want a massive kicking tbh. My MH can't take it today after the news I have had.

MissStrawberry Tue 30-Jul-13 20:13:07

I would never text out of the blue to say I needed a friend. Would be horrible to reach out to someone and get nothing back - as happened before and it so upsetting. The normal text first to see if they are free, etc works better for me.

MissStrawberry Tue 30-Jul-13 20:14:24

Also if I text normally, they reply something dramatic or bad news I will immediately support them and not mention my troubles. Seems like the decent thing to do.

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