In a nut shell... been with husband 8 years, married for 3, with 2 darling children we worked hard to get. Lost a 3rd baby late in pregnancy at the beginning of the year...a pregnancy that hubby had not been at all pleased about initially as was somewhat of a surprise. ...
So my dilemma....I just dont really feel anything for him anymore.....I think the phrase is "burnt out. " I can still see hes a good looking man but I dont "fancy" him anymore and sex is out of duty rather than passion. It's not just because of the baby we lost as had this exact same conversation with my bf at xmas....ie when was still pg about how this would pan out.
He works hard and is a good provider but is a big coke fan and does this at least twice a week when out with his mates. He also drinks at home every night after work. I just find it so unattractive.
He has started to accept that he more than likely has bipolar disorder....something ive been suggesting for years...which doesnt help.
Hes lazy with the kids and would rather watch tv at the weekends or is hungover from his binges with his mates...so im often playing single mum amyway. Never does bath or bedtime stories etc. Hes got major issues from his dad not being around since he was an infant and his mum being completely useless, plus a child from another relationship.
He snaps at the kids regularly and is very harsh with them ...our eldest is only 3....but he expects the behaviour of a ten year old I think sometimes.
Im going away soon and have said I can't go on pretending. ...problem is I know he wont leave the house that we jointly have mtge on. We dont have any equity and my parents paid our desposit.
I hate the thought of being single and messing my kids up without their dad around but think I still deserve a chance to be happy again one day.
Ive got a fairly well paid job so could survived financially if I made a few tweeks...the big problem is getting him to go. Hes threatened to not let me back in when I get home.
Thanks for reading. X
Any relationship/ financial advice greatly appreciated. X
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nectarini1983 · 28/07/2013 18:44
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