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does it matter if i class him as abusive or not?

(53 Posts)
cahemo Sun 28-Jul-13 16:20:36

That's it really. My dh fits some of the criteria.

But I've spent ages trying to discover if he is and just had an epiphany - I'm still unhappy whether he is or not.

Apart from physical safety-I'm aware the bastards can get nasty if they're abusive, does it matter? Isn't being desperately unhappy enough a reason to leave?

Or does an abusive man react differently to the news you're leaving them than a normal non-abusive guy?

AnyFucker Mon 29-Jul-13 13:25:36

good plan, cahemo !

I bet that is a very long and depressing list...

cahemo Mon 29-Jul-13 13:28:51

Oh yes it is; I'd print this thread, too, but I don't want to risk him seeing anything -I'll probably double print it or something.

Thanks for the boost, ladies (and guys if any here). I'm off to make inventory list of my stuff, chuck more stuff out -the less junk to cart around the better.
Thanks all.

AnyFucker Mon 29-Jul-13 13:29:48

delete your internet history too !

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