A close female relation, lets call her Sarah is in a new relationship and it's setting off alarm bells. Am I being too suspicious when I can't see what could be going on that's dodgy.
Met guy in spring. He ran prominent local business. German national living in UK
They got engaged within three weeks
Announced wedding for July. When asked about haste everyone was told wedding had to be in July for business reasons
He is very flash with money, said they were looking at £1,000,000 houses locally.
Talked about buying Sarah a new car. Booked wedding dress, lots of staying in London to celebrate etc.
Wedding planned abroad, blessing planned for 5* hotel in London.
Suddenly announced his local business closing
Started looking for homes in london instead - new business venture planned there.
No family that he is in contact with/on speaking terms with
We are told he has operation due in Europe in a few months for long trm heart problem
We are told he has diabeties. Also problems which cause him to go to bed often. Attending local hospital for tests but Sarah is not allowed to go with him. He says his diabeties medicines are not working but Drs can't get combination right.
He moves in with Sarah's parents, sleeping in Sarah's old room.
We hear he has problems with lost passport and difficulties getting it replaced.
It emerges that previous business went bankrupt. Latest business closure sparks tales in local press of financial problems and unpaid suppliers/staff. He says business folded because staff were stealing from him.
House buying plans actually result in moving into rented flat in London.
While Sarah is at her parents he rings telling her he got called into hear recent test results (called into London hospital rather then hosp where tests were done). Test results suggest heart condition is considerably worse and he now has multiple cancers and is very seriously ill, passing out frequently and effectively in life threatening condition.
He tells Sarah he needs her to stay with parents while he processes bad news.
He is in their flat in London not having been admitted.
Wedding is now on hold until he is better although registry office wedding very soon has been suggested.
All of this has happen in about two months.
Am I being a cow? Why is this all making me prickly.
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Is this weird or am I too suspicious
SoSceptical · 20/07/2013 08:39
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