My DP is a semi-hoarder. He likes to keep stuff ? lots of it! Lots of books, lots of CDs, lots of old newspapers, lots of old clothes he no longer wears, lots of leaflets and booklets, lots of transport maps ? STUFF! I moved in 6 years ago and have lived AROUND him and his stuff. Then DD6 and DD3 came along?
We decided to move and rent the house. I started packing up the kids stuff and my stuff. DP doesn?t like anyone to touch HIS stuff. He stated numerous times?
?DD's have too many toys. I don?t want all this stuff in the new house?. So, I sorted through a lot of girls toys .
?We won?t take put anything in the new house that isn?t essential and hasn?t been sorted out?. So I sorted all our stuff out - furniture, utensils EVERYTHING to the minimum.
TH thought "OK. He?s turning over a new leaf, he?s making an effort?, he wants to do things differently???SO, I sorted through EVERYTHING belonging to the girls and I ruthlessly and boxed it, and threw away a lot of stuff. DP didn?t lift a finger!
I gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought ?? HE?LL DO IT SOON???
Well, it ended up taking a YEAR to move into our new place, and still DP hadn?t started sorting out his stuff !!
I moved us into new home ? making sure girls and I only took the essentials and personal stuff.
Does DP sort out anything?!!
DP literally fills bags and boxes with all that is in his cupboards and takes it - straight into wardrobes in new house. However, he still left loads of stuff in old property (to sort out and throw away)
Fast forward 4 months and we are now ready to rent old property. DP waits until 2 days before renters due ? to bag up rest of his gear and - YES ? BRING IT ALL TO NEW HOUSE!
Now, house is empty it needs a clean. DP wants ME to go around and clean it!!! I refused, so he is paying £80 for a ?deep clean?. I am fuming!
This could have been done months ago if he had 1) sorted his stuff out months earlier 2) cleared old property sooner 3) sorted stuff before bringing to the new house to dump!!
And breathe??.
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