I have posted before about my abusive exs, but have nc'd here as this is quite sensitive. If you recognize me please do not say so.
I left an abusive relationship, and am having counselling currently. It's been helpful, but I am becoming increasingly stressed out by intrusive thoughts about something sexual that an ex did to me a number of years ago. This particular thing was not rape. It was very embarrassing though, and I tried to stop it but was afraid to.
I haven't been able to mention it to the counselor yet, as I said it wasn't rape, and it was some years ago, and I am very embarrassed I let someone do this thing to me even though I was an adult.There are much worse things that I have already talked to the counselor about, including actual rape, and something else that has far more of an impact on my life now.
This other thing really should not matter. But I keep thinking about it. I have woken up at night thinking about it.
Can adults be sexually abused even if it's not rape?
I have done some online searches and it seems as though adults can be raped or they can be 'adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse'. I know I put up with some shit but I am feeling pretty crap thinking that there must have been something really wrong for me to have put up with something like that and effectively been treated as a child by my then boyfriend. I.e. if that is the implication, that an adult is not usually able to be sexually abused by another adult.
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Can an adult be sexually abused (but I don't mean rape)?
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PlantPots · 18/07/2013 14:56
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