I need to be a bit vague as I'm posting on behalf of dsis who doesn't want to be identified for obvious reasons.
Dsis has been in a relationship with a lovely guy for 7 years sand they are due to be married in a couple of months.
Her DP has had a very traumatic time recently, he has had very serious ill health which has left him fairly severly disabled and almost blind. He nearly lost his life on multiple occasions and has had lots of very serious surgery. His illness affected his brain including movement, sight and processing information. He spent a long time in hospital and rehab in another city so he and dsis were apart for quite a long time with only weekend visits. He has recently moved back in with dsis.
The problem is that he is being extremely nasty and verbally abusive to her.
She has done nothing but be kind and supportive towards him through this very difficult period and she has obviously had a very difficult time too.
He is understandably very unhappy and depressed at his situation but he is making her life miserable too. He swears at her , not in the heat of an arguement but just in conversation, for example she will ask how his day was and recieve abuse back.
I realise that things must be so difficult for him but I am worried that my sister is about to sign up for a very unhappy life and I think that this behaviour is completely unacceptable despite the circumstances.
I was just hoping that someone might be able to advise or even have experience of a similar situation.
They are both ver young (under 30) and it's such a lot for them both to cope with.
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aturtlenamedmack · 15/07/2013 14:44
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