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Waves is winning.....Here comes the Acrobat!

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Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

Will this become the live birth thread? Will Lodger 1 leave? Will waves be smiling throughout this thread?

Doula is on call, bags are packed, acrobat was a teeny 14 weeks foetus when I started posting - he is about to become DC3, I'll stop being sick and a whole new chapter will begin.

thegreylady Sat 13-Jul-13 21:41:43

Way to go waves-another delurker here wishing you waves of peace and joy with your lovely children flowers

Just re reading this and seen a few x posts. Hi babyhmummy started getting crampy again now so goodness knows what is happening..... Thought I was maybe going to have a night off.

mushroomsoup (yum, I have some homemade in the freezer for when I'm not pregnant and sick) I'm glad you understand where I'm coming from re twunt and the birth. I genuinely have a good heart, and I'd like to think I will be in a space where I feel able to allow twunt to see his son enter the world. I'm giving myself the option, but that really is all it is, an option. I wont feel mean if it turns out that I dont want him there. My key birth plan thing is calm mother, calm birth, calm baby. Small talk banned, lots of lovely music to listen to, and a beautiful tree to retreat to during surges.

oh, and I do have a name sorted, although the middle name is a choice of 2. I thought I couldn't find a name that I'd love as much as the names of my DCs, but turns out I have managed.

Thanks for all the support still.... It makes me smile and feel less overwhelmed to hear so many of you thinking I am doing ok smile

Right, positive sleep vibes needed in case this genuinely is the latent stage of labour and I have hard work looming ahead. At least I put on my pregnant plumber hat and took the kitchen sink and waste pipe apart to give it a thorough clean confused nesting gone crazy again.

ProphetOfDoom Sat 13-Jul-13 22:05:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

JaxTellerIsAllMine Sat 13-Jul-13 22:37:44

I was on my phone when I posted earlier, its so hard trying to get a considered point across when you have hot hands!

I do understand you wanting to have an option, just dont want you to feel under any pressure or anyone interrupting your calm birthing plan. smile And the chances of him rolling up and putting his twuntish spin on things would send you to a place you dont need to be in during labour.

I think we all feel very protective toward you now, like a little family of virtual tigers.

wordyBird Sat 13-Jul-13 22:54:17

Yes, definitely a family of virtual tigers - or tigresses. Roar!

Hope you sleep peacefully. Very impressed that you went for a spot of light plumbing as a way of passing the time smile go waves!

SisterMonicaJoan Sat 13-Jul-13 22:56:31

Waves, you sound like a different woman from the one whose first thread I read flowers

Yes, things are still difficult but you picked yourself up, took on loads of advice from other wise MNers and you've survived.

Good luck x

Allalonenow Sat 13-Jul-13 23:23:35

Sweet dreams waves!

PyroclasticFlo Sun 14-Jul-13 08:09:53

Waves I've been following your threads since the word go (may have posted on the first one I think, can't remember!) but just delurking here to wish you and littlenAcrobat a very safe and happy birth experience.

Like everyone else I have marvelled at your strength, courage and dignity, and am so pleased your wanky lodger has left so that your house can be a haven again! Look after yourself and I send a million positive wishes and blessings to help you and your family in every possible way flowers

JaxTellerIsAllMine Sun 14-Jul-13 09:03:32

morning waves, hope your BH have settled down and acrobat hasnt arrived yet, although today is an allocated arrival day. grin

No acrobat yet, well, still one being very active in me, but not yet out confused

I slept (hoorah!) which is good because when DD woke up she was promptly sick. I have my HG sick bowl, and whilst she kind of reached that, it was fairly violent vomming so I now have bedding going through the washing machine.

Just a bit crampy so far today, and will hopefully be spending much of it chilling out with DD. No gig for me - I am being sensible for a change, and planning not to overdo things. Must admit that had DD not been poorly I would probably have risked it, but I wouldn't contemplate dragging her along to it.

I am STILL in 2 minds (maybe more) about twunt and the birth. Thing is, I don't want him there (I don't think) whilst I am in active labour/transition, just maybe present at the hospital, so he can come in for the actual pushing out of baby bit.

That said, I texted him yesterday about the persistent contractions, and after he got a bit arsey (as far as I could infer from the text message - so hard to pick up on things when they aren't spoken) I sent him a link explaining latent v active stage of labour. Not a word since - no how's it goings on sleep wells. So I am feeling a bit angry with him again now, especially as I feel that I didn't so much offer him an olive branch but an olive grove in inviting him to potentially be part of the birth experience.

What a twunt.

WingDefence Sun 14-Jul-13 09:12:54

waves - I've been away from MN and on holiday too so I've jut caught up. So glad to hear the house feels calmer now L1 has upped and left!

Focus on that golden thread!

WingDefence Sun 14-Jul-13 09:14:06

Cross post - what a twunt of a twunt angry

SpanielFace Sun 14-Jul-13 09:25:47

Another lurker here! I've followed your previous threads, and just want to wish you good luck & all the happiness in the world with your new arrival!

SkylerRose Sun 14-Jul-13 10:05:19

Yet another lurker! I've read all the way through and I think you are a fantastic role model to you wonderful dcs and I wish u all the best with the birth of acrobat! grin Twunt is exactly as name describes!!!!

BerylStreep Sun 14-Jul-13 10:11:19

Hey Waves have a good day today Hope DD is better soon. X

shiningcadence Sun 14-Jul-13 10:35:22

Waves, he's such a bastard arse. He's showing no concern AT ALL for you or, more importantly, his little boy. I totally understand you giving your doula his number as a 'just in case' but I think you would be an absolute saint to allow him to be at the birth after everything he's done. You want to feel tranquil and at peace during the birth and I have a feeling that he'd argue/undermine you/stress you out/make it all about him/spout this 'evil waves' nonsense again. I would hate for him to spoil what should be a wonderful experience. He has spoilt so much of your pregnancy so far. He has made your sickness worse by stressing you out repeatedly, this in turn has contributed to your weight loss and consequently acrobat's low weight. IMO he is a disgusting human being. Having said that I DO understand your reasons for wanting his number to hand. Please, just do what is right for YOU (and little acrobat smile)

Jux Sun 14-Jul-13 11:03:56

Waves, I too think you would be a saint to have him there, even just in the late stages.

But, it you giving birth and whatever you want is fair goes.

Oh goodness, it's pretty uncomfortable here in waves land. Breathing nice and deeply. I don't want twunt there, like I said its an olive grove. And I don't ever want my new son to ask why I banned daddy from being there. It's being the bigger person. If it gets to the actual real time, if he is at hospital then I can make a decision about whether or not he is in. But I won't compromise on the birth, calm mum, calm birth, calm baby. If twunt carries on as he is then no way could he possibly be there.

Rambling on and making no sense cos I'm so ouchy. So many clean clothes to put away but not sure I can manage. Wish right now that twunt wasn't a twunt and I actually had someone here to rub my back and do the household stuff and help look after DD. flipping crying again now....

BerylStreep Sun 14-Jul-13 11:14:35

Waves you are one strong lady.

ProphetOfDoom Sun 14-Jul-13 11:16:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChasedByBees Sun 14-Jul-13 11:19:42

Thinking of you x

AndMiffyWentToSleep Sun 14-Jul-13 11:25:36

Hey Waves, you can do it!

oldwomaninashoe Sun 14-Jul-13 11:25:44

standing by with bated breath Waves, waiting for the arrival of acrobat.
Just go with the flow, and do what feels right for you at the time.
Thinking of you x

bugsaway Sun 14-Jul-13 11:30:42

getting exciting now! youve handled so much this pregnancy - you know now you dont need twunt!

its clear hes not interested ... too much of a child

good luck with the birth dear

BadgerFace Sun 14-Jul-13 11:44:00

Oh Waves, it is so exciting and you are amazing!! Good luck!!

And take back the olive grove if you want to. Twunt doesn't deserve it and acrobat will never need to ask why daddy wasn't allowed at the birth, he will know from growing up, without anything being said, that daddy didn't deserve to be.

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