Hello - I'm looking for some un-hormonally fuelled perspective please!
We're still undecided on my/our first child's name (DP has 11yo son already), and at 38 weeks plus twinges, time is running out. My DP has set his heart on a particular name for a boy. It's old English and means 'intelligent', but is more commonly known as a surname, or a place name in the USA and in the north of England.
It doesn't feel right to me at all, and given that DP is also refusing to let baby have my surname as an additional middle name (tho has conceded to let it have one of my family first names as a middle name), it just doesn't feel right to me at all - I imagined going to the doctors and having my child's name called and it would feel like it wasn't my child.
The name is ok, but I think it sounds a bit daft and is too 'big' a name to hang on a newborn who has to get through primary and secondary school intact. If it wanted to be a lawyer, journalist, doctor etc it would sound great, but I worry it'll have a negative experience in childhood that would stop it wanting to achieve IYSWIM.
Thing is, DP is exceptionally stubborn and is also very selfish. I can't use the name here because he'll be able to ID me.
Every alternative I suggest, he hates, or at least says he does.
It's getting to the point now that I'm dreading my child being a boy - because I don't want the fight that will be inevitable.
I absolutely love the name we have in mind for a girl - now he's saying he'll only 'let me' name her that if I agree to the boy's name he likes.
Help?!
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How do you compromise on baby names?
BraveLilBear · 09/07/2013 13:25
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