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How do I ask/encourage dh to lose weight?

(53 Posts)
tory79 Sun 07-Jul-13 13:16:16

Dh has always been on the larger side since I've known him. His weight fluctuates between 15-16 stone, he is 5 11 tall. I think the main problem is that it all sits on his tummy and chest area really, his tummy is really rather large. It's probably even more noticeable as he has quite slim legs. I was looking back over some photos the other day, and its so obvious than even a couple of years ago, his tshirts hung pretty much straight down - these days they hang away from him, if you know what I mean.

I know this sounds really shallow, but I struggle to find him attractive because of this at the moment. I am 5 2 and only weight 8 st so to me he feels massive.

He works a lot and spends a lot of time in the car (eg often drives 1000 miles a week etc) and he does no exercise. He has just started going out for a very occasional bike ride, but this is only eg a 20min ride. He is suffering from mild depression at the moment, and one of the things the dr said to him is that he needs to make exercise a part of his life. His diet is also not great. He often skips meals, eats at funny times, under eats, overeats etc. he is not keen on family meals, and in any event, due to his work we often only eat together 2/3 times a week.

I don't know how to broach this with him.....

Vivacia Wed 10-Jul-13 21:40:57

SundaysGirl said just what I've been thinking. You said in the opening post that your feelings were shallow and I agree with you. If I was depressed and not taking care of my health, my partner would show me support and compassion.

tory79 Wed 10-Jul-13 22:18:03

I am supportive and compassionate!!

Indeed, nevermind how I might feel about his weight, the DOCTOR told him he needs to exercise more and lose weight, as I stated, so regardless of my own feelings on it, he should be doing this.

In any event, I would be suprised if most people didn't find their partner less attractive at times for whatever reason. I love him regardless.

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep Wed 10-Jul-13 22:30:45

I have the Hairy Bikers diet cookbook, I think I've seen it knocking around reduced in the supermarkets too - it's pretty good for reduced cal versions of 'manly' hmm foods like curries and that. And pretty tasty too, I like my food and resent diet books with horrible watery recipes...

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