I'm pretty happy with my life overall, but one niggle is lack of social life with DH, in the sense of other couples. If we ever tried to have a party we'd be pushed to ask more than half a dozen people!
I'm the first to admit that we are quite happy with our own company a lot of the time ( together) but at the same time think our life is a bit 'odd' as we rarely see anyone.
I have a handful of close girlfriends- mainly work colleagues, neighbours and really old friends, but most of them live an hour or more away so I don't see any of them that often- maybe once every 3-4 weeks.
DH has NO friends. He's a great guy who everyone likes ( thinking of colleagues) but is a loner. He had 1 friend - an ex colleague- but he is retired and spends a lot of time overseas.
I'd invite my girlfriends and their partners, but for each of them there is a reason not to! Some live too far away to come just for dinner, some of their husbands are anti-social and my friends have made it clear their OHs don't like going out, some have partners who are just 'hard work' and have nothing in common with my DH, half my friends are divorced anyway....
What do other people do and are we really odd?
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How much social life do you and your partner have with other couples?
Dandelionandburdocky · 07/07/2013 11:01
As Doha says above, you certainly aren't odd or unique.
I think that there are probably four other couples that we see on a regular basis eg all getting together every couple of months. And one of those couples we see more often.
Having said that I see and talk to the other women from those couples - if that makes sense 
- more often. It's just that we don't get together as ''couples'' quite so often.
But then DH does work quite long hours and so most weekends it's really good to just catch up and spend more time together and with the DCs.
So, at the moment, having a large set of ''couples'' friends isn't so much of a priority.
We are the same. I have old friends and we socialise with them and their DHs and with DH's old friends and their DWs whenever we can, but with the friends I have made more recently I just socialise with them, not their husbands. I suspect this is because we got into the habit of doing this - their DHs looked after the DCs while we went out, whereas with old friends we would socialise with couples in the beginning as none of us had DCs, and it has stayed that way.
A friend of mine used to do everything with another couple, even go on holiday. I did feel to start with, when I heard about all they did/where they went that we were somehow inadequate as a couple as we didn't have pair of a "couple best mates." After a while though I began to wonder why they always needed another couple about - didn't they want some time alone together? Then their marriage hit the rocks quite badly, and I sort of had my answer. 
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