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Do I sent this email to ex H?

(15 Posts)
aliciaflorrick Sun 30-Jun-13 18:21:56

It will say "Happy Anniversary. One year today since you drove to xxxx to the xxx gig".

It's the day he met the OW and started his affair, he has always lied about having his affair, but six weeks later I found out my marriage was over when he changed his FB status to say he was in a relationship with OW. I just want him to know I know he was lying. If you see what I mean.

Corygal Sun 30-Jun-13 18:23:24

No. You, my dear, are better than to stoop to trivialities, which is what he and his pathetic fuckeries are right now.

LookingForwardToMarch Sun 30-Jun-13 18:25:23

I wouldn't

All he will read into that is...

'I am so devastated and am still thinking about you, want you back and haven't moved on'

Trust me, thats all that will mean to him.

tribpot Sun 30-Jun-13 18:26:54

God no. Let it all out here, but do not let him know that you're still upset. You are fabulous and fearless (just like the 'real' Alicia Florrick) - bollocks to him and his petty lies. OW will be getting a taste of them any time now.

TobyLerone Sun 30-Jun-13 18:31:47

No way! Keep your dignity.

chickensaladagain Sun 30-Jun-13 18:37:02

My ex does this every year

No other woman, he was just a knob but every year I get a happy anniversary message asking if I'm sure I made the right choice and how happy he is

I just think 'lying knob' and hit delete -1 year I'm considering forwarding it to all his friends and family but I won't

Callmedreckly Sun 30-Jun-13 18:37:33

I have wanted to do the same OP

Im currently on the sofa cuddling my 10 week old, he has never met her, & hasn't even asked to.

We were together 9 years until I found out about OW in January.

Theres so much I now know, but I am leaving it, like the others say - The OW will soon find he is also lying to her.

Its bloody hard, but just try & bite your to tongue x

DramaAlpaca Sun 30-Jun-13 18:39:34

Definitely not, keep a dignified silence.

aliciaflorrick Sun 30-Jun-13 18:40:38

Oh I know I won't send it. In my saner less "self absorbed" moments I know it pisses him off that I never reacted one bit when I found out about him and OW. In an argument a little after he said to me, "You never even asked me to stay". He knows nothing about my life now, makes complete stabs in the dark that are way off mark. It bugs him so I should just continue in the same vein.

BUT, I have insomnia and this week has been really bad so I'm exhausted, DC1 and I have had a sickness bug and it's been really hard looking after him, DC2 who was fine, trying to walk a dog while vomiting and working because I can't afford not to work.

Most of the time I'm upbeat but I've just had a bad week, he won't help with childcare in summer so I've got two weeks of the summer holidays where I just can't work because I can't afford childcare, I'm self employed so if I don't work, I don't get paid so it's just a bastard really and he's out there taking OW to restaurants and her kids to the beach, while the last time he had my DCs they had to play in the carpark of the Travelodge hotel he stayed in on his one weekend in two months that he could be arsed to see them. He thinks being a good parent is paying the legal minimum of childcare he can get away with.

And you're right, I know he's a liar, I've caught him out on so many lies but he still tells them so just letting him know I know one more isn't going to change things.

OK last day of feeling sorry for myself today, tomorrow back to being upbeat and optimistic me.

Loulybelle Sun 30-Jun-13 18:41:57

Best revenge is to just move on and show how better life is now they've gone....they really dont like that.

LookingForwardToMarch Sun 30-Jun-13 18:44:01

Don't be too hard on yourself op smile

It is normal to feel this way, just make sure the bastard never sees it

DramaAlpaca Sun 30-Jun-13 19:14:34

You've had a horrible week, so I'm sending you some virtual flowers.

aliciaflorrick Sun 30-Jun-13 19:16:57

Callme sorry to hear you're going through the same. You enjoy the cuddles with your baby, you've got everything and he has nothing.

Ex-H still doesn't know I know he was seeing someone else. He was too stupid to cover his tracks properly. Best revenge is to live well. Sorry this week is rough.

Callmedreckly Sun 30-Jun-13 19:43:18

blush thanks OP -

You will get through it, it niggles but it lessens.

Sounds corny, but i keep saying to myself - Its sink or swim & I ain't drowning for that bastard!
x

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