This is going to sound really trivial.
Yesterday DH trying to withdraw money from his account, none to withdraw, DH getting frustrated & tried another cashpoint, then (unbeknown to me) put in his credit card and withdrew cash. I asked how did he manage to sort it (ie following the rant about where had all his money gone, was a bit curious as to how he'd managed to get some!).
Rather than just answer a simple question with a simple answer - credit card - DH told me 'because I'm at the cashpoint'. Which seemed deliberately facetious and made me feel stupid for asking as I then had to explain the obvious - he then confirmed he had used his credit card.
Today? DH getting stressed about having 'a lot to do' this afternoon, I asked what (thinking I could help him if its a lot), DH becomes frustrated with me because he's apparently told me once during the last 24 hours and I should listen properly and remember. To be honest I have my own constantly evolving to do list in my own head & can't remember everything on his in addition.
It seems like he takes the opportunity to deliberately make me feel a bit daft, forgetful, dim etc - when really I'm asking reasonable questions that he could just give a simple answer to.
When I calmly pointed out that he asks me things repeatedly and I just answer him as I don't expect him to remember every tiny thing I do with my day (he frequently asks me the same questions about my shifts), he got cross and accused me of being a perfect person whilst he's made out to be awful. I promise this is not the case - I was just trying to illustrate how every normal person forgets things sometimes!
I know this is trivial but it's making me worried to ask him questions and I always come away from these situations feeling like I'm stupid.
Please tell me if one of us is overreacting, or am I as annoying as he says I am? I'm really upset by this, it happens so often and simple conversations turn into really hard work, I just want to have a nice day with my DH but something always happens, this shouldn't be this difficult
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DH makes me feel stupid
ChangeyMcName · 23/06/2013 14:49
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