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oooh i feel ridiculous

(442 Posts)
ImNotBloody14 Fri 21-Jun-13 20:21:41

So silly. I'm a NCing regular. and a real proper grown up, I swear

I fancy someone. But I cant get up the guts to let him know or even to contact him. I've added him on FB (it's taken me months to build up to that) and he accepted. he's liked a few of my posts and a photo. I keep seeing him online (butterflies) and want to make contact but cant think of anything to say that isn't a blatant excuse to get talking to him. AFAIK he's single- well it says so on his FB.

arrgh this is so frustrating. if this was my best friend she would be chatting away to him no problem.

don't know what i'm posting for- just need to get this out of my head.

allaflutter Fri 21-Jun-13 23:35:11

oooh, dramatic change of pace! grin Good luck! did one of you actually suggested a date <faints>, or are you dressing it as some friendly drink n chat?

allaflutter Fri 21-Jun-13 23:35:30

suggest <gah>

deliasmithy Fri 21-Jun-13 23:40:24

I have no idea who you are but I'm gripped by this thread! So exciting, best of luck!

ImNotBloody14 Sat 22-Jun-13 10:00:28

Thank you!

We were talking about where each of us likes to go out and i said that i havent really been out in ages due to lack of funds and he suggested we go out for a drink on sunday evening on him. Neither of us said "its a date" so its not really but it's something! grin

allaflutter Sat 22-Jun-13 10:18:15

great that he's suggested it, 'a drink on him' does sound like a date, even though he's coy (which is fine as he obv is being careful not to jump the gun).
You see, it pays to show a bit of initiative, to see their response - result! <after a year> grin

ImNotBloody14 Sat 22-Jun-13 10:25:27

grin

Locketjuice Sat 22-Jun-13 10:42:24

Ohhh how exciting! smile

Wishfulmakeupping Sat 22-Jun-13 10:48:00

What an exciting thread! smile
Big question is OP what are you going to wear?

summer111 Sat 22-Jun-13 13:49:46

Wishful, just what J was thinking!

14, Please tell me you have a babysitter sorted! I think I'm definitely having pseudo first date excitement symptoms on your behalf grin

MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 14:01:00

Sunday evening is the official "Want it to be a date, but saving face in case it isn't" date time. You has pulled. grin

GilmoursPillow Sat 22-Jun-13 14:04:07

It's a date.

will be tapping fingers waiting for an update

WeGotTheKrunk Sat 22-Jun-13 14:18:38

he suggested we go out for a drink

You are totally in there, ImNotBloody14. I can tell just by reading your posts that this bloke fancies you.

What an exciting thread!! I hope you have a lovely time on your date. And it is a date, even though he hasn't said so. smile

HerrenaHarridan Sat 22-Jun-13 14:38:13

Ooooooo!

Right down to business.

Have you got anything to wear?

Baby sitter ASAP!

Nails, hair?

if you don't check in with us by Monday eve I will be forced to hack you fb

ImNotBloody14 Sat 22-Jun-13 14:48:26

Ok

Havent been able to get hold of friend to see if her ds can babysit. Neighbours dd is away with her boyfriend so cant do it. If i can get friends ds, how much should i pay him? Hes 18 and it would be 3 hours max.

Outfit- i have a 'go to' outfit that i wear if im not sure if dress code- its dark skinny jeans, black stillettos, either a black or white top that is a bit trendy ( same top- i bought in both colours grin) and a black 3/4 length blazer- how does that sound?

Nails - i was going to do them nude or red?

Hair- not much i can do as it's a bob with a fringe and dont really want to be trying anything new incase it goes tits up!

deliasmithy Sat 22-Jun-13 16:15:37

I dont know what going rate for babysitting is.

Clothes wise - 2 questions: what style of clothes has he seen you in before at this activity thing, and what sort of place is it you're going for a drink at? Is it country pun or posh bar?

ImNotBloody14 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:22:54

He's seen me in everything from sweats and flip flops- hair scraped back + no make-up to dressed up for dinner.

Havent decided where we're going yet but it will be one of the local pubs which dont really have strict dress codes- one is quite a grungey spot but heels are ok there too- i used to go alot.

DHtotalnob Sat 22-Jun-13 16:33:43

Nude (nails --for now--)

DHtotalnob Sat 22-Jun-13 16:35:14

Godamnit I can never do the crossy out thing

ImNotBloody14 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:36:17

grin

HerrenaHarridan Sat 22-Jun-13 16:59:55

I second nude nails (as in at least a coat of clear polish to give them a shine)

White top if black bottoms, some colour would off set the black and white nicely. In fact red nails against black and white would look hot!
Maybe a red hair clip or earrings (if you can match the shade)

You want him to see you've made an effort since he's jumped at the chance I think we can set aside playing it too cool grin

deliasmithy Sat 22-Jun-13 17:29:51

Pub - I'd favour a casual look that says look at me I'm gorgeous and haven't made any effort - when in reality you've spent hours getting ready! I second the white top dark jeans combo. I like the idea of the red splashes of colour though I think nude nails and no red works well, and then gives you an option for a second date!

ImNotBloody14 Sat 22-Jun-13 18:38:46

friend is going to get her ds to ring me when he get home but she says she doesn't think he has any plans so hopefully will babysit for me.

is it bad that he hasn't been in touch today? confused

thefrozensouth Sat 22-Jun-13 18:53:13

Of course not.

Relax and file your nails smile

dopeysheep Sat 22-Jun-13 19:02:02

I think it's good he hasn't been in touch. He doesn't want to look too keen and he doesn't want to give you a chance to back out.
Your outfit sounds lovely. Understated but sexy.

ImNotBloody14 Sat 22-Jun-13 19:28:08

Ooh nerves!! Going to get the dcs to bed then do my nails. Fingers crossed friends ds can come.

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