I think I know what I need to do but it's so hard and I'm not totally sure so would like some perspectives please.
Partner and I started a relationship within the last year, things have moved quickly and we are living together. We lost a baby early on and had serious finance issues due to a mix up at the bank and at the time I felt very alone. During that time and on several other occasions he has been sleeping with his ex. In our car, in our bed etc. worse still this was not about sex but a very emotional affair. Texts and declarations, pretending to me he is at work and meeting her for drives out and coffee.
He moved in with me after all this had been going on (within6 weeks) and before I knew about it and Once my bank situation had been resolved and I was financially viable again.
She has been phoning his work and mutual friends of theirs to get his new number (he changed it once I found out) and has told me she wants him back. I think he is revelling in it tbh. I've reacted very strangely and out of character for me in that I've let it slide, told him he is forgiven but it is not forgotten and for the past ten days have enjoyed how our relationship has been. He has been 100% in it for the past couple if months and I can feel that but I wonder what would happen if things got hard again? Do I always have to be this vibrant amazing sex goddess with unrivalled domestic prowess or else he will stray again?
I trust him now but I'm unsure whether how complacent and passive I have been about the whole situation is indicative of my real feelings and I'm just scared of being alone? People have said I've not 'punished' him enough but I don't see the point .
Should I be angry? I think I should but I'm not sure why I'm not. I mostly feel sick in my stomach and tired.
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