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Sorry - porn question

(16 Posts)
FeralStreep Thu 20-Jun-13 19:53:37

I want some ideas for porn that won't piss me off.

Non-exploitative, sexy, good humoured, pleasant images of people looking like they're enjoying themselves.

What's a woman to do if she wants to watch sex without feeling grubby?

Any suggestions welcome. Thank you.

FlorentinePogen Thu 20-Jun-13 20:46:00

My wife (yes, I'm a bloke) assures me this is a good site.

www.refinery29.com/porn

FeralStreep Thu 20-Jun-13 21:15:04

Thank you. Thought I was alone there...

cronullansw Fri 21-Jun-13 00:16:36

www.ladycheeky.com/

Sadly, this site, owned and run by a woman, actually depicts images of sex that looks amazingly hot. How she can do this to womankind idk.

But sometimes, I force myself to check this site out, just to make sure it's sick and degrading for women, but so far, I've been let down each time as each time there are pictures and videos of women clearly enjoying being in porn.

I'm so confused......

Also try Petra Joy or Anna Span.

Bogeyface Netherlands Fri 21-Jun-13 00:31:01

I read a similar thread on here a couple of years ago that suggested looking at "home made" porn as the women are obviously will participants. Then someone else posted a link about a young woman who was pressured into filming her sex life by her BF and it was then posted on the web.

In short, I dont think that you can find a site anywhere that you can be 100% sure is "Fair Trade".

Bogeyface Netherlands Fri 21-Jun-13 00:31:26

willing, not will!

cronullansw Fri 21-Jun-13 09:58:56

Here here Bogeyface, absolutely.

Err, no. Wrong in fact. Here is an article about exactly that;

www.cosmopolitan.com/celebrity/news/tristan-taormino-feminist-porn-interview

But you carry on believing all women in porn are trafficked / druggies / coerced.

And whatever you do, do not click on the ladycheeky link I put up earlier, I wouldn't want to be the one responsible for shattering your illusions.

Bogeyface Netherlands Fri 21-Jun-13 11:06:36

Did I say that?

I said that you cant be 100% sure, and you can't, unless that is actually your website.

Well, as someone who has worked in the industry for a long time and had dealings with Petra Joy and Anna Span, and who also knows people who have had dealings with Tristan Taormino, I have the impression that they do their best to use willing participants and to take care of them WRT giving them good working conditions. So I am happy to recommend their output.

FeralStreep Fri 21-Jun-13 18:14:20

Thanks all. I seem to keep making forays into this area, so I'm clearly interested, but then most things I see make me feel more 'yuk' than 'rowr'. I'm sure there must be something out there for me. So thanks.

FeralStreep Fri 21-Jun-13 18:44:33

Lady Cheeky kinda works.

getmeoutofthismadhouse Fri 21-Jun-13 18:46:07

Another Anna Span recommendation. I like porn with a bit more than the get down and dirty bit , and this usually does the trick !

badgeroncaffeine Fri 21-Jun-13 18:49:35

www.redtube.com

cronullansw Fri 21-Jun-13 22:53:07

Oh Bogeyface, still not quite got it have you? You'd need to act, direct, film, edit - everything to be 100% sure.

So......... use a site owned and run by women with ethics - it's the closest you can get.

Bogeyface Netherlands Tue 25-Jun-13 16:28:46

Or dont use porn? Its hardly a fulfilling pastime hmm

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