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New man. Personal grooming question.

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MyPhoneIsMyWorld Wed 19-Jun-13 16:47:16

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips? smile

MillyMollyMandy78 Wed 19-Jun-13 16:51:08

I can't really answer your question but curious to hear other peoples views. I am married and been together almost ten years. Same as you - just keep things trimmed.

NotDead Wed 19-Jun-13 16:55:06

I'm 40. No need to go bare but don't have it too long. Its just too annoying for most foreplay!

Also if he wants it bare and you like him its MUCH sexier if it comes off later.. or even if he is involved in removing or talking about removing..

fieldfare Wed 19-Jun-13 16:56:04

As long as you're clean and tidy I doubt he'll give a stuffed fig what 'hairstyle' you're sporting grin.

meditrina Wed 19-Jun-13 16:56:48

If someone is unmanned by a normal female body, perhaps he's not going to be such a great partner after all.

DragonMamma Wed 19-Jun-13 16:57:15

I'm early 30s and married and go for a brazillian type arrangement. DH doesn't mind if it grows as long as it's not full on bushy

wormulon Wed 19-Jun-13 16:57:17

It should be like a lawn not a jungle.

LurcioLovesFrankie Wed 19-Jun-13 16:57:45

What Meditrina said!

noisytoys Wed 19-Jun-13 16:57:46

I'm 26 and all off. You will get a range of people with different ways they mow their lady garden there isn't a right or wrong way

MyPhoneIsMyWorld Wed 19-Jun-13 16:58:35

Milly I work with lots of younger girls, roughly in their early twenties. After speaking to the girls the popular thing is to take it all off!

My bloke is in his late thirties so I don't really know what he might be expecting.

This question seems to come up quite regularly on here. I totally understand not wanting to seem out of sync with whatever is going on, but it's your body, your pubes and there is no wrong or right. If you do want an opinion, your current regime sounds fine. It is also how you like to do it which is more to the point grin

bestsonever Wed 19-Jun-13 17:00:51

Personal choice, leave a little as I'm not pre-pubescent so I have no wish look like I am. Having said that, keep certain areas clear as it would be understandable quite frankly for a man not to want a mouthful of hair IYSWIM lol.

reggiebean Wed 19-Jun-13 17:01:49

All out bald is the current trend as far as I know grin

DonutForMyself Wed 19-Jun-13 17:04:40

I warned mine that I was a bit old-fashioned in that regard. His response "are we talking Jackson 5 here?!" and yes, we are and its fine.

Keep it however you like it, he'll get used to it. I hate it bald, looks weird and pre-pubescent to me (not to mention the itching) so its staying.

Perhaps you can take a cue from how often he shaves/waxes/trims anything too. My DP isn't very fastidious about his own grooming so I'd be a bit pissed off if he expected me to be!

PostBellumBugsy Wed 19-Jun-13 17:08:26

MyPhone - bit like you, I was married for quite a long time & just kept neat & tidy, but mostly all there & then when I found myself single again I was a bit panicky about my pubes as the fashion seemed to be for brazillians, americans, french etc. So, I fiddled around with all sorts of minge topiary trying to please new partners. But, now I go with Meditrina's view - any bloke turned off by normal female body hair is not worth sharing your minge with! grin

Go with what you feel comfortable with.

LadyBumps Wed 19-Jun-13 17:10:44

Agree that if he is as shallow as to be put off by any permutation of lady-gardening (or lack thereof) then he doesn't deserve you! I hope that you feel lovely as you are.

theoriginalandbestrookie Wed 19-Jun-13 17:13:44

I think the trend is to have a lot of it off.

I had a very distressing wax a few months ago, I couldn't understand why it was taking so long and why it had hurt more than usual. Turns out as a favour confused the beautician had given me a landing strip look, rather than the cover up enough so I can wear a swimsuit that I usually go for. I was traumatised and didn't like the look of it at all, although DH was quite impressed.

I shouldn't worry as long as you are neat and tidy.

Mid 40's and all off for me too.
It's so much easier than trying to get the landing strip and so on.
Feels much cleaner as well.
Enjoy it, as and when it happens!

EMUZ Wed 19-Jun-13 17:19:34

I'm in my 20s and trim heavily grin but with actual shaving I just shave the edges

Kernowgal Wed 19-Jun-13 17:22:48

"Minge topiary" grin

xlatia Wed 19-Jun-13 17:25:23

donut arf at jackson 5 grin

i'm 30 and keep it short and tidy. imo, a bloke should be happy to be in the vicinity of your ladygarden (or bush or whatever takes your fancy) and not moan about style. most guys don't sport any fancy dos down there so cannot expect women to do so!

MyPhoneIsMyWorld Wed 19-Jun-13 17:34:13

HellsBells if you don't mind my asking - is that salon waxing or self shaving?

I should add that this guy is not a keeper, it's just a gonna be a few brief encounters.

lynseyclark Wed 19-Jun-13 17:36:36

im 28 and get it all off but i live in greece so from may til october most weekends and most days in august i'm sporting a bikini so its also a weight of my shoulders not to worry about a stray hair also husband to be likes it

MyPhoneIsMyWorld Wed 19-Jun-13 17:37:08

and I should also add that he's sent me photos and I can see that he's shaved, at least upper, but not sure how far down.

Hate being graphic but do men actually shave their balls?! They're so delicate shock

sarahbean123 Wed 19-Jun-13 17:40:19

Definitely all off!

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