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partner just accidentally tx me this.....back door? xxx what u make of it

(64 Posts)
stella10 Mon 17-Jun-13 17:08:18

Just that really. Wen I rang and confronted him he made an excuse about old msg's coming through on phone. I know this to be bull. What do I do/say? He doesn't know I suspect yet?

Hulababy Mon 17-Jun-13 20:56:14

HongkongDreamer - because he was send the xxx text to the OP, his partner?

Plus3 Mon 17-Jun-13 20:57:33

So ..what are you going to do about the lack of love in a crap relationship then?

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Mon 17-Jun-13 21:00:12

Because he was replying to her

Back door???

xxx

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Mon 17-Jun-13 21:00:57

But Stella life if too short to be with someone you don't love and doesn't make you happy... really it is.

stella10 Mon 17-Jun-13 21:37:52

Yes this is true I agree there but we are trying to work on the relationship and I admit I have been the uncaring one a lot and not trying much so I was actually very hurt and shocked to think of the possibility of cheating before we've even called it a day. It is him that insists we need to work at the relationship and wen things are good I am glad I listen to him which is why todays tx made me wonder why I was even bothering!! To top it off I was so worried I rang my mum told her all the nasty details of our recent rubbish times and she said don't jump to any conclusions ask him what it was....and sure enough the dodgy text was from my stupid phone! And he w/s just replying back door? Xxx to find out what I meant.... p I did push him enough he might go

stella10 Mon 17-Jun-13 21:41:11

Sorry posted too soon. I realise now I need to decide what I want because a part of me wasn't surprised he may have been looking elsewhere for affection as its not been forthcoming from me:-( my bad. But and yet he isn't one to do that really...what a strange day:-/

austenozzy Mon 17-Jun-13 21:51:54

i sent some messages to what i thought was my old mate's mobile. it was his old number that had been reallocted and i got a very shirty reply suggesting i 'go elsewhere'. had happened loads to this guy apparently.

Celador Mon 17-Jun-13 22:34:40

Lilmiss is right; my samsung has randomly sent old texts before.

However, you still deserve a proper explanation otherwise it'll always be in the back of your mind.

We don't have enough info to say whether he's having an affair so don't assume this, but stand your ground until you're happy with his explanation.

Good luck x

cronullansw Tue 18-Jun-13 01:48:49

No wait!!

OP should do exactly what she's been told to do!! LTB!! Right now, either he's asked for anal or he's cheating, either way, it's unacceptable and doesn't take your feelings into consideration, LTB now!!

Do not give us this 'oh it's all ok, my phone WAS playing up'', we know he's forced you to say this. smile We simply can't have....

Jeez. This place kills me. Talk about inappropriate knee jerk reactions. ALL of you with the ''he's cheating'' need to take a good hard look at yourselves, your negativity, your habit of leaping to the worst possible conclusions.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum Tue 18-Jun-13 02:04:33

If he works in comptuing back door used to be a virus or a something to do with computing either that or maybe he takes or sells drugs secretly and uses the back door of somewhere

Just another 2 random reasons for 'back door xxx'

Flyingtree Tue 18-Jun-13 09:53:01

My iPhone3 likes to send texts that were originally sent several hours ago, or repeat text threads that happened days ago, or even send texts from weeks ago. So he could be telling the truth.

Honeytrap him back. Disable your Caller ID and text him asking when he wants to see 'you' next.

oreoaddict Tue 18-Jun-13 10:25:38

I think it sounds like a believable explanation, but you've already said that you don't really love each other anymore, so regardless, you should leave.

I hope everything works out for the best

cronullansw Wed 19-Jun-13 01:38:22

Gosh - not one of you lot so that were so eager to condemn hubby for cheating has had the decency to apologise.

I'm so, so surprised.

Ever heard of karma?

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Wed 19-Jun-13 02:06:05

stella how have you been today?

If you don't love him, why are you trying? It shouldn't be this hard or unrewarding, it really shouldn't.

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