Things have been deteriorating between me and SIL (and consequently most of the rest of dh's family) for a few years now but it's reached an all-time low.
basically she can't stand the back of me for various reasons - most of them to do with competing with me in the family for the status of favourite daughter-in-law. she has 2 boys and i have 2 girls. she is desperate for a girl and sulked royally when i had dd1. when dd2 was born i was in hospital with a potentially life-threatening condition (for me & baby) but she never once asked after me through BIL, MIL or dh. and now since dd2 was born she has never acknowledged that she even exists... and yet got pissed off when we didn't invite her to the christening.
she hates BIL even talking to dh on the phone now. she won't even refer to us by name! i get on really well with her two boys but only see them when they are at MIL&PIL's house on their own. dd1 adores them both but is missing out on spending quality time with them. mIL&PIL don't like the situation but have accepted it - they are terrified she will stop the boys going round. BIL is resigned to the fact his wife is very difficult but they won't split up as he too is worried she will take the boys abroad (where her family is).
Now i found out at the weekend she is pregnant again (unplanned). BIL is unhappy about it but i think they will have the baby. I am very sad that we will probably not get to form a meaningful relationship with the new baby and it will put a lot more strain on the way things are instead of being a joyous thing, which it should be (and is really). No-one else knows about the pregnancy apart from dh. i am pissed off she has poisoned things for everyone but i don't think things can get any better as she hates me and dh so much!
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how do i hate my SIL - let me count the ways...
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Moomin · 30/05/2006 10:46
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