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Dating thread 56 all welcome

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Kirstywirsty Sat 15-Jun-13 21:12:42

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. If it is not fun, stop

ALittleStranger Sat 22-Jun-13 17:49:32

Journo isn't unusual Bant! At least not among my exes...

No one's had a comedy job. I need to up my game.

ALittleStranger Sat 22-Jun-13 17:50:13

Kin I think you might just win this one!

brokenhearted55 Sat 22-Jun-13 17:55:46

Oh Fuck I'm missing my ex again. sad

48howdidthathappen Sat 22-Jun-13 18:02:31

Hi all.

Snape Someone better? Have a little faith smile

I am off out Rocking and Rolling tonight. Loads of dancing with Mr R&R, plenty of booze, then back here to feel the blood pumping through my veins grin

Have a great night everyone.

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 18:04:24

It's a shame they don't provide a 'smug face' emoticon Stranger because I'd be using it grin

I'm sorry Broken it really is a giant bag 'o' shite, I know.

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 18:05:16

Hello 48 ! Have a wonderful night.

brokenhearted55 Sat 22-Jun-13 18:14:49

I want to call my ex again sad

Scrazy Sat 22-Jun-13 18:15:54

Broken, what's the history?

48howdidthathappen Sat 22-Jun-13 18:18:19

Broken Don't do it. Picking the scab will stop you healing.

You will get there smile

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 18:24:36

Broken you could do the write a draft email thing, and never send it, obviously. It's very cathartic, you get to say whatever it is you want to say, without the inevitable pain and setback of actually contacting them.

Broken no phone, get it out on here is you need to, we've all had our own moments.

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 18:25:05

(I have a folder full )

lurkinglorna Sat 22-Jun-13 18:25:27

ha ha I'm sure there are SOME lovely dateable doctors out there - also I don't have a degree or much money so maybe not such a priority for me to get someone very professional!

I think i am just careful about watching out for what Juliette's word was - entitlement.

of course interesting/good looking types who can bring me into a new world rather than just "lets sit and watch TV" always appeal - I know i go weak at knees for a certain "look" - but someone who is "well I'm such a catch in such a sexy profession, I don't even need to try" is a turn off!

Its not really anything to do with any situations on this thread. Just seen too many people IRL (some my own family -chinese culture) value dating/being in a relationship with "someone big in X profession" (or "someone so beautiful they impress everyone") over someone who is actually pleasant to deal with confused

They always look very worn out and tired by the end of the relationship, even if they did get the "prize"! shock

I have no random/interesting jobs, just boring ones for me!

lurkinglorna Sat 22-Jun-13 18:26:57

Broken write here, no?

OhWesternWind Sat 22-Jun-13 18:36:48

Bollock am pissed. Broken I wrote you a post which would have solved all your problems but it got lost and now I can't remember. The gist was to give new people a chance. The first time I met my l-t ex I didn't speak to him. The first time I met LM I decided I wasn't going to meet up again as he wasn't my type. With hindsight, those were both great plans but I went on to have relationships with them both. My point being, what you get on a first date is in no way going to compare with what you had in a LTM. Give things a chance. Unless they're a doctor .. .

After a good think back on the question of embarrassing jobs, I can't come up with any. Just embarrassing boyfriends.

lurkinglorna Sat 22-Jun-13 18:48:10

@ JulietteMontague

haha grin, oh for me, the shame of being lonely and young and going for someone hideous because "because we're not sure something better will turn up".

One very good dating blogger i read advised as follows:

"recognise and acknowledge to yourself when you're lonely or need attention, because that is when you end up accepting the bad ones".

KinNora Sat 22-Jun-13 18:53:12

Ohh, was it embarrassing jobs ? If so, I've misunderstood. I'd probably only be embarrassed if they were a Tory MP or a professional Jim Davidson lookey-likey. Or indeed, Jim Davidson.

lurkinglorna Sat 22-Jun-13 19:05:33

this is important moral question on thread.

Jim Davidson OR Boris Johnson OR George Osbourne

confused

Djangounhinged Sat 22-Jun-13 19:17:18

Ew! Is that the game where you have to say that you MUST sleep with one of them? Have to say, Jim Davidson would be at the very bottom of my list.... Which leaves me with Boris and George. Ew!

lurkinglorna Sat 22-Jun-13 19:23:29

3. (bottom of list) Jim Davidson...just yuck all round.

2. Goerge Osboure, he looks like his skin is shiny, also would be into weird practices.

1. Boris is not attractive to me, but I think he would be very "qucik and efficient" then say crikey and fall asleep, so best of a bad bunch.

Djangounhinged Sat 22-Jun-13 19:26:45

Hello all, btw!

Is there a way to block numbers on iPhone? The nob end who sent me the 'classy' message earlier in the week obviously didn't take the hint when I blocked him on WhatsApp... Got a phone call, voicemail AND a text last night (clearly on his return from the pub where telling women he'd like to take them from behind and hard didn't work either ) saying he'd like to chat. Could have almost forgiven him if he'd started any of the messages with something like "I'm so sorry about that last comment" but no, just acting as if nothing untoward had ever happened.

Meanwhile, quite keen on another chap who wants to take me out, but no date set yet.... Why couldn't he be the one leaving drunken messages?!

Happy dating to those of you out and about tonight smile - half a bottle of wine and The Voice final for me hmm.

And Snape, I'm glad you're feeling better having processed and rationalised the info smile. Totally get why you might wobble after that conversation, but the fact that nameless has been so open about it can only be a good sign grin

Djangounhinged Sat 22-Jun-13 19:29:01

Yeah Lorna I agree - think Boris would be v appreciative, whilst George would have difficulty keeping it up. Boris it is then..... <bleurgh>

Some friends and I got round the Moonwalk a few years ago by playing that game! Fairly passed the miles.....

lurkinglorna Sat 22-Jun-13 19:39:07

Mmmmmmmm....google tells me no "easy" way to block numbers on Iphone -seems weird to me for advanced phone but I don't know about technology confused.

So just ignore ignore ignore the knobhead. I have theory that the more socially awkward a man is, the more he gets rejected, so the more he "pushes" for a meet or sex or whatever. Quality men -in UK dating culutre - are used to having attention/contacts reciprocated/replied to so don't need to send message after message and know how to "take hints".

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