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What do I do?

(31 Posts)
PinkPlum Sat 15-Jun-13 12:21:27

Hi everyone
Recently split with DH after a v difficult patch which resulted in him cheating. We have 2 DC's together and my little DD is really struggling. She constantly asks after him, tells me she is missing him and desperately wants him to be living with us. She sees him every week but it does not seem to make it any better for her. It is absolutely heartbreaking to see. What do I do? Should I try couples counselling with him before I totally break up our family? I know a lot of people will say it was him who broke up our family (which is true) but all I care about is my baby's happiness. DS is too young to be v affected but DD is fully aware. Do I put my feelings and what has happened behind us for her sake? Thanks for reading x

PinkPlum Sun 16-Jun-13 18:23:35

AThing you are SO right. He is trying to control me. And he had the audacity to call me a control freak today!!

Kernowgal Sun 16-Jun-13 18:30:17

Cor he thinks he's a right catch, doesn't he? Time to take the wind out of his sails with a decisive phone call to the courts tomorrow.

What a knobber. You're well rid there OP!

AThingInYourLife Sun 16-Jun-13 18:34:49

That's the spirit smile

The problem with a man like this is that every good implulse you have will work against you when dealing with him - every attempt to be decent, fair, kind, responsible will work against you.

Anything he perceives as a weakness he will exploit.

That's why the only safe place for you is away from him.

sarahseashell Sun 16-Jun-13 18:36:37

so sorry you are going through this sad wrt your dd you could try a book called 'its not your fault koko bear' (on amazon)
best of luck

mummytime Sun 16-Jun-13 20:07:00

The contact in your home is also going to be extra confusing for your DD, as after all how many other people who aren't "friends" do you have pop into your house on a regular basis?

PinkPlum Sun 16-Jun-13 21:05:11

Thanks everyone smile

He will be receiving a solicitor's letter tomorrow. Short sharp shock is what he needs I think. Let him waste his money dragging me back to court.

I think I will only allow him to see the babies at a contact centre for two hours on sat. I will not allow him back into my home ever now. He has no respect and an absolute liberty trying to kick me out of my own property! If he doesn't like it he can take me to court...

You're right mummytime it may be confusing for DD to even have him here disrespecting me in my home. I do not believe she should witness this sort of behaviour anymore and I need to take action and make sure we are simply not around each other.

Thank you sarahseashell - I will check that book out on amazon now!

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