I am a lone parent. Ds is now five but his dad (exHusband) walked out when he was six months old and there's never been any contact since. I have no idea where he is now.
ds knows that 'daddy ran away to another country' and that he was 'naughty' to do that, but that I love him totally and can love him enough for both of us and that he will always be loved and I am never ever going to leave him.
He's a confident, sociable, loving, clever boy with great friends. He's doing well at school and I pack a lot into our lives as possible. We are very close and have a super wamr loving relationship. The husbands of a couple of good friends are also around and make an effort to do dad things with him - bikes, fires, cars, go-karts etc. But of course they are not constants in his life iykwim.
In the last few days he's been throwing himself at other kids' fathers saying 'you're my daddy'. His teacher told me this today. She says he needs more 'boundaires' and that he has made two fathers (he doesn't know them) feel uncomfortable.
I am not sure what to do or how to help him.
Any advice? We have no family at all - so as well as zero father, he has no grandads, grannies, cousins, uncles etc. It really is just him and me.
Can anyone suggest what I should or can do and how I should adddress the throwing himself (desperately wanting rough and tumble) with him?
I'm going to copy and paste this into relationships too as people on there might know young children in a similar position whose mothers have found a way.
Thanks for reading.
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Help. Advice needed on how to help ds whose father left when he was a baby
bbqsummer · 14/06/2013 22:53
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