Sorry, not sure if best place to post but relates to relationship with DH. Have NC.
Basically DH called to say he was going to be late home from work, I felt knackered with 8 month old DD, wanted him to give her tea etc, have a cold and generally felt crap.
I then started thinking how much my life feels like one endless drudge/groundhog day and got myself into a right state, with thoughts whirring round my brain about how I hate my life, my body etc. And then going onto how mind numbingly boring being a SAHM is and how my personality seems to have eroded into being a dull Mum, who meets with other Mums because that's the done thing but whilst doing that, feels a bit sad and unfulfilled :(
I felt awful for thinking these things (I love my DD more than anything) but the state got worse and worse. Thought to myself I have no real friends anymore (ones without kids assume you don't have much in common anymore) My body repulses me and I'm disgusting, so what's the point in trying, making an effort when I look a horrible, fat mess and have nothing interesting to say.
Sorry for the rantiness of this, just trying to explain my state of mind last night. DH comes home, is nice helpful etc asks me if he should start helping with weeknight feeds and I just say 'I'm not tired, just bored with my drudgy life' So after all the weird goings on in my head that I wanted to scream out - that's it.
We then settle into a tentative, general conversation and it's over. BUT...
I still have these awful feelings of boredom, sadness, resentment and massive, massive guilt (what a horrible Mum I am)
Where to do I go from here? DH does help out but I feel like I'm drowning, endlessly worrying about what I need when I take DD out etc and being responsible for all that stuff - he just tags along.
Thanks if you got this far, I'm going back to work in Oct - but I'm losing myself, what can I do?
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Had a meltdown last night (in my head)
OhChristwhatsup · 06/06/2013 10:07
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