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Abusive husband

(62 Posts)
Longtimelurker0111 Sat 25-May-13 13:22:05

I've left my husband after an incident last night.
He was drunk, he hit me, he went and sat at the top of the stairs whilst my daughter was asleep in bed. I thought he was going to hurt her.

He broke my cheek and my nose, I'm covered in bruises. He is still at the police station I think.
I don't know.

I'm scared for him to come back.

AllThatGlistens Mon 27-May-13 17:35:45

So glad to hear you're feeling better OP, keep that strength up for you and your little one flowers

Longtimelurker0111 Tue 28-May-13 19:48:41

He's denying everything. Said none of it was true. Said ive been having an affair and it wasn't him doing the beating.

He said it was all a lie - what do I do

TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong Tue 28-May-13 19:53:10

This is typical abuser behaviour. Blaming it all on you, of course it's your fault, you provoked him, you made him mad, it's all you.

You mean he has lied to the police and said it was your putative other man who hit you? How original of him.

Do NOT let him get away with this. Are you still at your brothers? They believe you, the police believe you, and we believe you. xx

FrequentFlyerRandomDent Tue 28-May-13 20:05:19

I believe you.

You do not have anything to do. He is trying to wriggle out of what he has done. Don't engage with him or try to justify yourself.

You told the truth. It is logged. Keep protecting yourself and the DCs. Keep talking to people in RL about what happened, what has been happening and how to prevent it happening again.

MadBusLady Tue 28-May-13 20:10:04

Is this what the police have told you he said? If so, just reiterate that your statement is correct, and see what the police/your solicitor advise.

I really hope you're not talking to him/in touch with him via a non-official channel.

IAmNotAMindReader Tue 28-May-13 20:37:21

I believe you.

Stick to your statement and be guided by what the police and your solicitor say. If it is them who have told you this it doesn't mean they in any way belive what he has said, just that they are informing you this is the stand he has decided to take.

Keep strong and protect yourself and you Dd.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SlittySluttySlots Tue 28-May-13 21:59:19

I believe you too thanks

Earthworms Tue 28-May-13 22:23:17

I believe you,

Jux Tue 28-May-13 23:01:20

I believe you.

vintagecakeisstillnice Wed 29-May-13 08:36:28

Ok first of all I believe you.

Now I hope I explain this correctly, bear with me.

He lying and saying he didn't hit/hurt you because he knows what he did was wrong. He's not even doing the classic she made me do it/ she forced me in to it, because he knows no- one will believe him, that normal decent people see right through that shit, so he going for total denial.
Does he really think that the 'A big boy did it and ran away' excuse is any better?

You know what happened, that is all that matters.

I think the one thing you need to realise/ believe is that you don't need anyone's permission to end this relationship. There doesn't have to be a list of faults, no one has the right to force you back in to a relationship with him.

What he did was criminal, and all you have to do is continue to tell the truth and keep yourself and your baby safe.

Jux Wed 29-May-13 12:03:41

Are you OK, Lurker? How's it going?

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