DH and I have what I guess is an ok relationship in many respects. We do things together (sometimes), he says he love me now and again. He makes the occasional cup of tea or does the occasional baby feed. We have sex and cuddles outside of that (although I do initiate more).
The problem is I just don't feel he actually loves me.
The key things are that when we talk he rarely looks in my eyes. This is so important to me. I have told him this and I don't understand why he wouldn't make the effort to do it if he did care about me. He also never seems to give me his full attention. So when we are talking he is often; flicking through a magazine, playing with the dog, checking his phone etc. Also, if we are standing, his body if often at 90 degrees to me, like is is trying to escape!
Am I being over sensitive? Does this kind of stuff matter to other people? Is this just normal male behaviour?
I have tried to discuss it but I would have thought if you were interested in someone and cared about them you would do these things anyway? Maybe I shouldn't rely on him to make me feel happy? Perhaps if I was happier in myself rather than looking for reassurance from him these things would just happen?
We do also have a month old baby so I am feeling like I need some reassurance at the moment but these things were there before hand.
Feel like we are just drifting along together rather than actually happy. Kind of like "playing happy families".
So so tired which probably isn't helping. Baby is actually sleeping really well but I am unhappy and worried about whether DH and I have a future so not sleeping very well.
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I just don't feel DH loves me
toffeecrispandacupoftea · 22/05/2013 07:46
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