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What do you do with gifts your ex gave you?

(35 Posts)
superstarheartbreaker Sat 18-May-13 08:25:47

These gifts were greatly apprechiated at the time but now feel false and insincere. Also I can't really bear to look at them. It is so tempting to send them back but that is just childish isn't it? Has anyone ever sent gifts back? It's a bit of a slap in the face isn't ir? which is secretly what I want!

mrsmarples Sat 18-May-13 18:21:02

Charity shops, skips, incinerator, boot sale and ebay.

I left my wedding ring to ex twunt in my will.

A1980 Sat 18-May-13 18:32:35

I keep everything.

But I have my last bf some.pretty decent stuff but I guess I can't ask for it back.

Startail Sat 18-May-13 18:35:45

DSIS always kept her big silly stuffed dog, said it was far better to cuddle than the wet twit who gave it her.

KingRollo Sat 18-May-13 18:40:12

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bumpotato Sat 18-May-13 18:44:07

When I split with my ex it felt quite good getting rid of the stuff he'd given me, joint stuff and the stuff he left behind (which I sold).

I gave a diamond pendant that was too valuable to chuck out to a then good friend who turned arsehole on me a few years later. I've since had daughters and wish I'd kept the pendant to give to one of them.

3mum Sat 18-May-13 21:05:54

Not a lot to show for 30 years together - I should have noticed that before now. He wasn't hard up either, he just never thought I was worth buying nice presents for.

I took off my wedding and engagement rings and promptly lost them - that was over a year ago so no chance of finding them now. Went through the photograph albums and took out every single picture of me ever and burnt them. (I left him the albums though I don't suppose he ever looks at them). Also burnt my wedding dress which I had kept meaning to give it to my daughter one day - I couldn't wish on her a dress from a failed marriage. My view was that since the marriage had been such a waste of time there was absolutely point keeping any record of it. Still feel like that now.

superstarheartbreaker Sat 18-May-13 21:41:16

I don't know why, but I am soooooo tempted to send them back. It is childish though isn't it? It's because I'm still hurting. Gah!

RiotsNotDiets Sat 18-May-13 21:44:23

Don't send them back! It's not going to make you feel any better, sell the stuff that's worth anything and buy yourself an ipad.

ladyjadie Mon 20-May-13 08:28:33

Do you think you're wanting to send the stuff back just to get a response from him? If so, don't bother, is it just the iPod and soppy card?

Rip the card up and with every rip think of something shit he did to you

Either eBay the iPod or give it to someone less fortunate, you'd make their day and feel good for it!

Lweji Mon 20-May-13 10:19:59

I still wear some nice earings xH gave me. Or was it MIL? I forget. blush

I have kept the wedding and engagement rings. Not sure what to do with them yet. Maybe melt to make another jewel.

I have made sure to give ex his valuables that he had left at home.
All considered, I should have kept them, as he took money from joint accounts that he shouldn't.

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