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Do i stand a chance

(4 Posts)
RebeccaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 19-May-13 19:58:57

Hi all,

We've moved this thread to relationships now.

jolo123 Fri 17-May-13 23:04:21

Hi moonlightand roses im just on my mobile so difficult to do this tbh thanku by the way for that cant do wat u said as on.phone xx

Hi,

Sorry for what you have gone through, and are still going through.

Just wanted to say, you might get a few more responses by asking MNHQ to move your post to the Relationships board. You can do that by clicking on "Report" at the top of your post and requesting a move in the text box.

jolo123 Thu 16-May-13 16:50:16

i have 3children from age 7-14 and i was in a relationship for 12years until i broke it up becauae we noth wasent happy.
Unfortunatly i found myself unable to keep up payments for my rent and was left to alot of debt from both of us but his moto was leave me to worry and pay for it that way i will come running bk to him.
after a year i moved away somewere cheaper up the midlands, and fount my first love, i hadent seen him in 15years i was so happy. Everyone warned me off him but i thought i knew best and thought i could change him,long story short he took advantage of me being vaulnrable and not only pysical abuse but mental too which sometimes be worse. Once he smashed a 6ft mirror ova my head ot was enough so left withy children same night and never returned bk.
i then started drinking because deep down i loved him. But wasent fair for my children and had to put them first but i was drinking far to much and was not being as good as i could of been. At the time i Was in denile and blinded by it and SS got involved removed all 3 and i lost the court battle in dec ladt year! ! i have been sobber for 2years now but still they wont let me have them live with me because i may get with a violent partner. Its so unfair i hold my hands up i let my kids down for them 2years but i was and still am a loving mother and put them befor anything.
Im basically saying u must always fight for ur babys u will win eventully just make it clear u will not get involved with the dad until he has proved hiself u need ur dad and gf to back u up even though its not wat u want but the social want that. Hope my story has helpped u can always contact me if u want to ever talk ive been there and feel for u ill help u as much as i can xHi kaylz sounds very the same as wat i went through.
i have 3children from age 7-14 and i was in a relationship for 12years until i broke it up becauae we noth wasent happy.
Unfortunatly i found myself unable to keep up payments for my rent and was left to alot of debt from both of us but his moto was leave me to worry and pay for it that way i will come running bk to him.
after a year i moved away somewere cheaper up the midlands, and fount my first love, i hadent seen him in 15years i was so happy. Everyone warned me off him but i thought i knew best and thought i could change him,long story short he took advantage of me being vaulnrable and not only pysical abuse but mental too which sometimes be worse. Once he smashed a 6ft mirror ova my head ot was enough so left withy children same night and never returned bk.
i then started drinking because deep down i loved him. But wasent fair for my children and had to put them first but i was drinking far to much and was not being as good as i could of been. At the time i Was in denile and blinded by it and SS got involved removed all 3 and i lost the court battle in dec ladt year! ! i have been sobber for 2years now but still they wont let me have them live with me because i may get with a violent partner. Its so unfair i hold my hands up i let my kids down for them 2years but i was and still am a loving mother and put them befor anything.
Im basically saying u must always fight for ur babys u will win eventully just make it clear u will not get involved with the dad until he has proved hiself u need ur dad and gf to back u up even though its not wat u want but the social want that. Hope my story has helpped u can always contact me if u want to ever talk ive been there and feel for u ill help u as much as i can x

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