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Not sure whats going on, bit of head scratching here..

(8 Posts)
something2say Mon 13-May-13 18:14:47

Yes maybe he has found someone else and now wants to ease up on you.

kotinka Mon 13-May-13 14:03:42

possibly using some rebound date to mess with your head.

I agree, change the joint banking situation and don't fall into the trap of getting upset at him.

sorry it's been hard. for you, op, hope it gets easier soon.

HotDAMNlifeisgood Mon 13-May-13 13:20:53

Either way, it's just confirmation that he's a bit of a shit, isn't it?

AndTheBandPlayedOn Mon 13-May-13 13:04:40

Also in agreement. It is just another EA tactic. If true, count yourself lucky he has another target, not to mention the validation it must give you for ending it if he can move on so quickly. Doubt It, but it doesn't matter at the end of the day: you are well rid.

Congratulations, btw. smile

Betrayedbutsurvived Sun 12-May-13 22:37:53

He is so playing you. Ignore, and get divorce proceedings underway ASAP.

he's trying to play you.

take money out of the joint account and get it closed (or take your name off it)

NaturalBlondeYeahRight Sun 12-May-13 22:21:18

Does it matter? In so much as this could be an opportunity to sort out the financial side. If he has, then his focus will move from you and you can get yourself straight, if its a double bluff to have you begging (which it won't!) Then play it straight, smile and try to crack on with sorting the finances. If its pretend, then it might not last very long.

catkin14 Sun 12-May-13 22:17:01

As per my other posts, left my EA critical H of 27 years about 2 months ago.
Was my decision and its been harder than i thought but im ok. H was distraught for about 6 weeks, was trying to use DS to get me back, crying all the time etc. Then i heard nothing from him for around 10 days.
Next thing i get an email saying he wants to sort everything out, sort money and still be amicable. (This was after telling me i wasnt going to get any money out of the marriage)
We have a joint bank account which i still have access to for living till i start work.
About a week ago i notice that there were debits from the joint account for flowers and dinner for 2. Then last week another debit for a jewellers...
H is now seeming to be very cheerful, 'life must go on' etc which is a total U turn!
Also he seems to be avoiding youngest DS (age 14) putting off seeing him when he was desperate to before.
Would you think he has moved on already and found someone else? Seems so quick??
or more manipulation?

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