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Shit sex

(11 Posts)
Pinksed Fri 10-May-13 23:27:32

We've been together less than a year and already he seems to have lost interest. 90% of time I have to initiate it and up until I said something, I normally got rejected. Now he's putting the effort in the actually have sex with me hmm but it's shit. Its basically minimal effort into foreplay (rough, no affection, no proper touching or kissing - just straight down there with the fingers until he thinks he can get on with the main - and then it's just a case of him going at it until he climaxes. There is no slowing down to make it last or anything like that. He's 41. I'm 32. Is it the age difference?

ThatVikRinA22 Fri 10-May-13 23:30:30

sod the age difference - shit sex is shit sex.

at 32 you are in your prime and since the relationship is quite new i would be asking yourself what you want from this relationship and if its a keeper or not.

im 41. dh is 47. id be pissed off if DH just saw our sex life as a chore to get through! quality not quantity is my motto....

kittybiscuits Fri 10-May-13 23:31:24

no, he's a crap shag OP! sorry. get rid, it will only get worse.

Monty27 Fri 10-May-13 23:32:24

That's shit sex. Age doesn't come into it.

Darkesteyes Fri 10-May-13 23:34:33

Bin him. He doesnt care about your needs. He is having sex ON you not WITH you.

AdoraBell Fri 10-May-13 23:40:56

Not age, my OH is 57 and makes much more effort, and takes much more care, than your DP. So that means it's him. Has something happened in his life to make him change?

Darkesteyes Fri 10-May-13 23:53:51

Adora Bell envy

deleted203 Fri 10-May-13 23:58:40

Not the age difference. Or his age. He's just crap in bed. And at 32, my dear, you could do better! Was he always shit at sex?

Charbon Sat 11-May-13 00:00:05

No nothing to do with the age difference. It's much more likely that he puts a bit of effort in during the chase but then gets complacent. Does he use porn, as this is a common complaint from women partnered with men who do?

AdoraBell Sat 11-May-13 00:40:40

Sorry Dark

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 11-May-13 07:00:58

It's not the age difference, he's just a lazy/selfish lover.

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