Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse

(142 Posts)
Mosman Thu 09-May-13 12:58:52

"H" has lost his job. I wasn't working because we don't have a visa or permanent residency now.
I'm in Perth the rent is paid until Tuesday, he's getting a week in lue of notice, 4 children and about $700 to my name.
Does anyone know if the embassy or someone will fly us home.
I can't take much more tbh

Mosman Tue 14-May-13 02:02:43

Sorry to hear about your leg LD (is it C? Btw)

Longdistance Tue 14-May-13 06:25:58

Yes it's me smile

newbiefrugalgal Tue 14-May-13 08:27:00

Good luck with job. Sydney sounds like a good option

LittleBearPad Tue 14-May-13 09:05:28

You keep talking about 'we'. 'We' need to get jobs, 'we'd' come back to the UK. There is no 'we' judging by his behaviour. You need to decide what you are going to do for you and all your children.

And it isn't ok to be enjoying the drama.

AuntieVenom Tue 14-May-13 09:09:57

How'd the interview go today?

Mosman Tue 14-May-13 10:25:04

I was being highly bloody sarcastic when i said is it ok ? There is no part of this i am "enjoying". Obsessed, yes maybe that too, it's all rather raw frankly I doubt anyone hasn't in their own mind murdered the other woman/man in my situation.
Life with him has been stressful for the past five years but equally there has to be a WE on the basis that he is the children's father, I do need him to pay child support and whilst of course it would be entirely understand to not give a fuck what happens to him, it impacts on me directly doesn't it ?
Sydney interview went ok, i'm clearly not on top form though.

LittleBearPad Tue 14-May-13 17:41:08

I'm sorry.

On the other hand it might be a plan, even as a worst case scenario, to plan what will happen if he can't contribute in the short or medium term. Then you will know where you really stand.

newbiefrugalgal Tue 14-May-13 17:59:02

Do you know when you will hear about the Sydney job?

Mosman Wed 15-May-13 00:31:36

This is the thing with Australia - no sense of urgency - Monday, they will let me know about second stage and taking four people to second interview which seems ridiculous.
He's met with a recruitment consultant yesterday who was very positive but admitted roles may not come in before we run out of time.

I am thinking about plan B's but really it's about getting through the next six weeks.

AuntieVenom Wed 15-May-13 01:00:06

Could you do contract work with your visa? It's likely to be faster than going for a permanent job and once you (or he) have secured something you can look for a permanent role.
Are any of your (or his) LinkedIn network in Australia, or have connections in Australia? I've found reaching out via my network a quick way of getting work in the past.
God, I hope that doesn't come across as me trying to teach you to suck eggs because it isn't meant that way.

Mosman Wed 15-May-13 01:06:06

I can't but he could and I've suggested that this morning, he is concerned that if he gets a day job it'll take his energies away from applying for proper jobs, I pointed out he won't be around for the interviews in 3 weeks time if we don't get some cash into the house asap.

AuntieVenom Wed 15-May-13 02:00:21

Bloody hell, what an arse - him not you! It really sounds like he wants to fail and go woe is me. You must have the patience of a saint to be able to deal with that without losing the plot.

Mosman Wed 15-May-13 02:59:18

I've lost the plot a while back tbh, I had all this in the UK, not prepared to do just anything but happily watch me walk out the door to go to work and put the LO in nursery whilst he sat in costa cultivating his affair - bastard - I have to keep reminding myself of this because otherwise I feel sorry for the twat.

Anyway two more interviews in Perth today, amazing what you can do when you pull your head out of your arse grin

AuntieVenom Wed 15-May-13 03:49:25

Good luck for the interviews! I know it's hard, especially when you see how the situation is affecting the wider family, but try not to feel sorry for him, he brought this completely on himself.

Longdistance Wed 15-May-13 08:15:46

Good luck with the interviews Mos. Will have my fingers crossed for you x

newbiefrugalgal Fri 17-May-13 07:48:55

Any news?

Mosman Fri 17-May-13 10:02:41

"H" has an interview on Tuesday, I am still waiting to hear on seconds and have a couple of Skype interviews lined up for roles in the UK.
The latest thinking is if he gets a job here in Perth we will stick it out for the sake of stability for the children.
If I get a job in the UK and he gets one here I don't know what we'll do but the worse case scenario is that I get a job in Perth and he doesn't - even if it's only like that in the short term because i'm not bloody well supporting him.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now