My ex is down stairs refusing to leave what can i do

[SummersComing1111]

My ex came round for a chat about DS access we have been getting on well, long story short got into a row he lost him temper now he is refusing to leave! Im upstairs with DS to get away , how can i get him out ???

[JumpingJackSprat]

Call the police?

[ChocHobNob]

Do you have a mobile on you? Phone the police.

[WhereMyMilk]

Police now

[Hareseeker]

Do you feel threatened?

[tourdefrance]

call 999

[SummersComing1111]

I thought that but what can i say i invited my ex ran we got in a row now he wont go they will laugh at me

[SummersComing1111]

No aslong a i dont row with him

[Hareseeker]

No they won't, a child is involved

[MisForMumNotMaid]

They wont laugh. He has overstepped the boundaries. They are skilled at this

[FannyFifer]

They will remove him, police now.

[MisForMumNotMaid]

They would rather be called and not needed than the situation escalates.

No one has the right to make you feel threatened In Your home.

Can you call anyone else, a friend, neighbour, family mamber?

[Hareseeker]

Mis is right, get some RL help

[Lweji]

Police.
He overstepped his boundaries.
If you allowed a builder home and then he refused to leave you'd call the police too.

[WeAreEternal]

They won't laugh, they will send someone round to have a chat with him, and remove him if necessary.

Don't be scared or embarrassed. You need to show your SBEX that you are not scared or intimidated by his pathetic immature behaviour.

[marthastew]

They will take you seriously. They will arrive in a flash and remove him. Please call them now.

[MisForMumNotMaid]

They wont come in all heavy handed. They will be firm but polite. They will have record of their visit.

Please don't feel silly or embarrassed. That's for him to feel. He's the fool. He has no right to act in this aggressive way in your home.

Do you have anyone else to call if not the police (but they wouldn't mind)

[whatamardarse]

This infuriates me! My ex used to play this game, until me and dd actually had to leave the house and go to a relatives even if she was in her pj's.

It's purely a control thing. The first time I phoned police was also the last time he pulled that trick! He was out the house waaaay before they came. They were fine and drove past a couple of times incase he came back.

Phone police.

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

of course you must phone the police. Someone is behaving in a threatening manner and refusing to leave.

[StrangeGlue]

Call the police. They'll come round but polite and remove him. It's not okay what he's doing and they'll take you seriously.

[Dahlen]

I can tell you on good authority call the police and he will be made to leave. The fact that you invited him there is irrelevant. You've asked him to go and he won't. Therefore he is committing a number of crimes - trespass & behaving in a manner likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress - and that's just for starters.

[SolidGoldBrass]

If you haven't got your mobile and the phone is downstairs, open the window and shout as loudly as you can for someone else to call the police. He doesn't live there, so he has no right to be there; they will come and remove him.

[deleted203]

Police. Now.

You let someone into your home who is now refusing to leave, and you are upstairs with a child.

Phone the police and ask him to remove them. The fact that you invited an ex partner in for a conversation does not give him the right to be abusive, threatening and refuse to leave your home.

[Shlurpbop]

Is he still there OP? You ok?

[marthastew]

OP, are you and your DS ok?

I know it seems like a major and drastic step to take but do call them. As soon as you know they are on their way, you'll know help is coming. When they have gone, you'll know you can take action to protect yourself and will have sent a significant message yo your ex that he cannot threaten you in this way.