Probably in the wrong place but didn't know where to post this.
I had always thought I'd have/planned to have, certainly for the last 10 years, one more DC. Whilst I love the DC I already have dearly, I felt my family wasn't quite complete. I had very easy pregnancies and births, and adore babies, even the sleepless nights didn't worry me because I have odd sleeping patterns anyway so don't find them too hard.
At 30, when I realised that I wanted another, I thought I had loads of time. 2 failed relationships and 10 years on, I think time has probably run out. I have symptoms of early menopause - most women in my family have gone through the menopause completely by early/mid 40s - and (although I haven't been tested) I suspect my fertility is low.
I am seeing someone, but it is very early days and even if that lasts, any discussion about starting a family would be a very long way off (and probably too late for me, if it isn't already). Plus we have 6 DC already between us, so even making the huge assumption I could still get pregnant, and the even huger one that things last and our relationship goes down that route, financially and practically another child may not be possible.
Although I think I have probably known this on some level for a while, the more time passes, the more I find myself thinking about it, and the sadder I feel. I think I need to come to terms with the idea of a future without one more baby (because the overwhelming likelihood is that I won't have one), but how do I do that? Also not helped by the fact a lot of people I work with, and a big group of my friends, are all 5-10 years younger than me, and pregnant/have small DC.
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fourforurtwo · 02/05/2013 21:40
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