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Things NOT to say to the recently dumped!

(31 Posts)
superstarheartbreaker Tue 30-Apr-13 18:23:22

Bless my friends. On the whole they have been great during my devastation but I have had a few odd comments;
*During an evening round at a friends the day after 'I have carpet burns from too much sex!' agggrrr!
*A kind e-mail from a colleague ' So sorry tpo hera about your news blah blah blah....I am so looking foward to getting shoes to go with my wedding dress, cake ribbon etc!' agggrrrr!
* Don't you put cardboard in the recycling?' when obviosly a complete mess! agggrrrrr!

Am I being over sensitive or is there a bit of smuggery going on?

Feel free to add some real corkers (and cheer me up a bit!)

oldwomaninashoe Wed 01-May-13 10:13:08

My son was dumped New Years Eve by the girl he had given up his job for as she insisted that they move in together but in her town over 200 miles away.
He was devastated and heartbroken, and after we persuaded him not to take up the new job he had arranged where she lived, I sat down with him to "talk".

One of the most helpful things he found was to make a list of her bad points, it also made us laugh a lot as we discussed them.
No contact as well is helpful as when he texted her or phoned he was really upset.

Cerubina Wed 01-May-13 11:59:59

I've had "Are you in the angry phase yet, or are you still upset?" This being 24 hours after my husband walked out.

And the corker "What's she got that you haven't?!" from my mum, also several complaints about being upset, not being able to sleep etc.

Lavenderhoney Wed 01-May-13 18:46:02

I hope things work out for you and i guess at least you can stop taking the pill. i have similar problems and never took it after trying it for a bit. i Here are some remarks I have had.

" but he was perfect! So handsome and earnt so much money! I told you you didn't cook enough Proper Dinners" - dm when I dumped mr perfect about 6 minutes after the ow turned up at our house.

" there's no shame in ringing him and begging him to come back" as above. Like fuck I would. Yep, rather be single!

" Ooh, we all knew but didn't want to tell you, we knew you'd be upset" mutual friends on hearing I had dumped his sorry ass.

" he was so handsome and clever, he was always going to meet someone else" dm

" but look, you have a nice little flat, and its not like you need space and a garden, what with you not having any dc or a bf now, is it" dsis

" oh no, don't forget to change your will- I suppose me and my dc will be on it now, seeing as you are alone and have no one else" dsis

Rather tearful at a party ( tired and emotional) and being asked about how I had no idea of ow in my 6 years with mr perfect. " 6 years!" Said a chap- " takes me 6 months to realise it won't work"

" tick tick!!" Don't leave it too long to get a new bf!" You wasted your child bearing years didnt you! Tick tock" Tosser bf of friend, who laughed! Never saw them again.

" He didnt like you really, why are so you so upset? Hanging round, being miserable" dsis

" he's too good for you, he'll want a model type" dm/ dsis in joint attack.

" where do you find all these awful men? You must attract them, I feel sorry for you, I wouldn't be you for a million pounds" ex friend

" at least he is now with someone he loves, so something good has come out of it". Ex friend.

Still18atheart Wed 01-May-13 18:53:29

My own dm said to me after my exdp broke up with me the first time "you'll soon get over it", "there's plenty more fish in the sea" at the end of the convo said "oh, sounds like there's for you two". Got back together a week later

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Wed 01-May-13 18:57:53

I am shock astonished at those remarks, bad enough from friends but your own DM and DSis Lavenderhoney!

Cerubina you too sad what on earth goes through their heads.

LeoTheLateBloomer Wed 01-May-13 19:03:13

OP I'm sorry you're going through this. Do you mind if I ask which pill you were on? Your side effects sound very similar to what I've been experiencing.

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