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Do you love your sister more than your DH

(59 Posts)
MotheringShites Sat 27-Apr-13 22:30:53

I was just reading an article in the MoS about identical twins. It made me think about my sister (not a twin) and how much I love her. I think it's more than my DH but obv not more than DCs.

Anyone else love their sister more than their partner?

No, but I really love my cat.

doingmyhead Sat 27-Apr-13 22:32:25

Absolutely not! blush

Ruprekt Sat 27-Apr-13 22:32:52

Nope! I love DH more than anyone.

bigTillyMint Sat 27-Apr-13 22:32:56

No. I haven't got a sister. Or a brother. sad

SirChenjin Sat 27-Apr-13 22:33:40

Hahaha!! Erm, nope. I love my sister, but no, DH wins.

MrsBombastic Sat 27-Apr-13 22:33:43

I love my sister but in a different way to the DH (who I love immensly) the 2 are incomparible?

What an odd question!

HDEE Sat 27-Apr-13 22:33:47

No way, not even close.

Ruralninja Sat 27-Apr-13 22:34:14

Christ no!

HolyFocaccia Sat 27-Apr-13 22:35:25

Different sort of love.

whattodoo Sat 27-Apr-13 22:35:50

Wow, that's got me thinking!

I love her differently to DP.

She drives me mad, but I trust her with my life. She knows me inside out, my achilles heel, my darkest secrets.

But my DP doesn't judge me like she does, he shares my dreams, soothes me, makes my heart race.

Different. Great question!

YoniLovesChachi Sat 27-Apr-13 22:35:57

No, I barely know my sister.

I would imagine for most people it would be like comparing apples with oranges anyway.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sat 27-Apr-13 22:36:07

No. I feel different emotions for them.

I don't think you can measure the different types of love. I don't think they're even the same feeling!

The love I have for my husband is totally different from the love I have for my sister, both of which are different from the love I have for my children.

None of which compare to my love for cake. wink

love is an umbrella word, imo.

It's impossible to rank husband and sibling.

you could rank siblings.

Or husbands, I suppose grin

I have 4 sisters. I love them all in a different way from dh. I love them all differently from each other too.

I am an identical twin and as much as I love my sister it can't be compared to how much I love my dh.

Startail Sat 27-Apr-13 22:37:48

No, DH then the DDs in the sense that one day I hope they'll leave home and I hope DH won't

The DDs then DH in the sense that they are perfect and he can be very annoying and my Dear little sister, well I love her dearly, but I do find it easy to end up a cross purposes with her and DM ends up sorting out the mess.

Mandy21 Sat 27-Apr-13 22:41:20

I don't think its an odd question, before opening the post, I really had to think about it. I have a twin sister and we are incredibly close. She's my best friend. She knows me inside out, upside down, we know what the other is thinking without even looking at each other. The love for her is deeper, a part of who I am. My love for my DH is more intense, more involved with who we are as a couple and as parents. So I can't really say who I love more, I love them differently.

That doesn't answer the question does it?

MotheringShites Sat 27-Apr-13 22:41:48

We really need different words for love. This article just really made me think about how much I love my sister and would be bereft without her. I do love DH too but my sister is weirdly different.

Shellywelly1973 Sat 27-Apr-13 23:56:08

I have 2sisters & a dp. My older sister isnt a very nice person. I literally have only just realised why the majority of our family dislike her.

I adore my younger sister. I love her totally unconditionally. Apart from my dc she is the person i love most in the world. She has loved me no& supported me all my life.

Yes its different from dp. Dp doesn't care or will ever understand me like my sister, even after 14years.

WafflyVersatile Sun 28-Apr-13 00:02:38

Differently. Ultimately a partner matters more to my day to day life as I would live with them in the same house rather than hundreds of miles away like my sister.

My sister once called her husband my name in bed though. grin



They were not having sex at the time. She was half asleep and he was annoying her. We shared a room as kids. I guess 30 years of empirical evidence led her to the error.

chattychattyboomba Sun 28-Apr-13 00:03:05

Oooo this is a tough one. I think it's about equal actually. I love my DH and i love my sis- but thy both can be sooo annoying!

Moknicker Sun 28-Apr-13 00:13:18

Tough one.DS and I are very close. Seen each other through everything in life, can finish each other's sentences and nobody can make me laugh like she does. I love her very very much and cant imagine my life without her.

DH and I have only been together for 5 years but hes the true love of my life and still makes me go all gooey. He is quite different to me in a lovely male way which is wonderful. I love him very much and cant imagine my life without him.

They can both also drive me to distraction!!!!!!

I would say different kinds of love but as Im typing this Im just thinking how incredibly lucky I am to have both.

Goes off to give DH a snog kiss and call DS after that.

Trill Sun 28-Apr-13 00:47:14

I only have a brother, but I have friends that I love more than my brother and I think that if he was female but otherwise had the same personality that would probably still be the case.

Trill Sun 28-Apr-13 00:49:07

I don't think that sharing DNA and an upbringing necessarily makes you get on with someone, or makes you think that their opinion is important, or makes you understand someone.

It can help, and it makes it more likely, but you shouldn't assume that it is so.

FishCalledWonder Sun 28-Apr-13 00:52:53

No, my sister is a nightmare. Might love my mum more though!

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