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I can't be fucked to name change. Follow on from DPs ex has cancer. Just found a suitcase in his room.

(198 Posts)
SirBoobAlot Sat 27-Apr-13 21:22:08

I've been drinking. Don't care.

Was round at his housemates, needed some hand cream, knew he had some E45 in his room, went to get some. Found a purple suitcase on his bed. Dress on top of it. Full of various 'girly' outfits inside. He told me he was out with someone work related last night.

The bastard has lied to me before, and now he is totally fucking me over.

We were supposed to be going out tomorrow night. He told me today that he couldn't, as he had 'football' plans.

I need to tell him to get fucked, but I feel broken.

I', 21, disabled, with a three year old son. He told me he loved me. I believed him. I feel like a complete dick. He said he loved me. I believed him.

Please, either tell me to think rationally and that I'm over reacting, or that I'm being taken for a ride. Because I can't handle this any more.

Leverette Sat 27-Apr-13 21:24:46

Have I got this right; your DP lives in a shared house and he has a suitcase of girl's stuff in his room?

Have you asked him?

Holding your hand.

Skinnywhippet Sat 27-Apr-13 21:25:50

He prioritises football over you and your child, he has women's clothes in his room. You don't need to ask us. Is he also 21 ? If so, I don't think he is mature enough for a relationship and children.

lisad123everybodydancenow Sat 27-Apr-13 21:26:42

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

monsterchild Sat 27-Apr-13 21:27:15

Oh no! I don't know what to say, but if he's done this before I'd be wary of giving him another chance.

It hurts when someone who says they love you does this, sadly I know.
I think you're best rid of him if only because you can't trust him.

AudreyParker Sat 27-Apr-13 21:29:30

Fuckeroo, was that thread you? LL?

That stayed with me for months. Did you ever find out if it was true or not?

CajaDeLaMemoria Sat 27-Apr-13 21:29:42

I'm so sorry sad please be careful, and look after yourself...

Where is he now? Do you know?

AudreyParker Sat 27-Apr-13 21:30:15

So do you think he's had the ex staying over? Fucking bastard.

SirBoobAlot Sat 27-Apr-13 21:30:44

No. Previous thread under the screen name of luminiouslaces but I can't be fucked to name change. All the previous lies and deception come up there.

We don't live together. I picked up some stuff for his flat mate in town, took it over, went to his room... etc.

He's lied to me before. But little lies.

I don't know what to make of this.

He's in his 40s, older than me, not his DS, but they are very fond of each other.

lemonstartree Sat 27-Apr-13 21:30:59

can you link to your previous thread ?

LemonPeculiarJones Sat 27-Apr-13 21:31:23

Oh dear. But hang on - where is your DP? Is he not there with you?

If he is out but knew you would be there, wouldn't he hide evidence of another woman?

Sorry if your other thread sheds extra light on your post, I haven't read it.

But if he's cheating on you then you will be better off without him. You're very young, you will recover, you will be able to find a faithful, loving partner.

You sound in shock, understandably, and the booze doesn't help. Deep breath, speak to him, and whatever happens know that although separation is painful in the short term, the long term truth is that you have escaped a total fuckwit. And that is the best outcome.

flowers

SirBoobAlot Sat 27-Apr-13 21:32:39

Not ex's size clothes. I looked.

Ex was lying and now not talking to him because he called her on the lies.

House mate says she didn't hear anyone come in last night. He's saying it's work related. No one stayed on the sofa.

Bastard. Absolute bastard.

I feel broken, and like I've been taken for a fucking ride.

diddl Sat 27-Apr-13 21:34:00

You know what?

You're only 21!

If he's messed you about & you just can't be bothered anymore-get rid!

SirBoobAlot Sat 27-Apr-13 21:34:12

He's been sending me 'sexy' texts all day about looking forward our night together on Monday. Whilst last night he was fucking someone else.

diddl Sat 27-Apr-13 21:35:15

Are they his size clothes?

What is his work?

thenightsky Sat 27-Apr-13 21:35:22

Bloody hell. I remember your 'cancer' thread. sad

So she really was pulling his strings then?

SirBoobAlot Sat 27-Apr-13 21:36:51

No, not his size clothes either. Crossed my mind.

He owns a shop.

Yes she was lying, as far as I know, and has stopped all contact since he stopped reacting to them.

Feel like a completely twat. Stuck by him through all of that, and now this.

Portofino Sat 27-Apr-13 21:36:58

Dump his sorry arse and get on with your life. I know you are upset, but you have your whole life ahead of you. You will get past this.

diddl Sat 27-Apr-13 21:37:05

So he's moved someone in with him?

BOF Sat 27-Apr-13 21:38:07

Just fuck him off, love. Trust me.

PurpleThing Sat 27-Apr-13 21:38:19

Why don't you live together?

I remember the other thread. Sorry but it sounds like he is lying a lot. My stbxh was like this, little lies getting bigger and more hurtful and then he started get worse and worse - abusive etc.

I hope this doesn't sound patronising but you are a lot younger than him, disabled and a single parent. That makes you vulnerable and an easy target for gits.

Any chance he's a cross dresser?

I remember your other thread, I'd have sacked him off ages ago tbh. You're only 21? You don't need this shit, just get rid.

LemonPeculiarJones Sat 27-Apr-13 21:38:29

If there have been previous lies and deception you have to bin him. You do not need shit like that in your life.

Clear him out of your head and heart, make space for some new, positive experiences and people.

He sounds a nightmare.

SirBoobAlot Sat 27-Apr-13 21:41:52

No, he's not. He'd have told me by now - we've been quite 'adventurous' sexually.

He's been so positive in my life half the time, the other half I spend crying. I don't need this shit. Surely a relationship shouldn't be this much hard work?

AudreyParker Sat 27-Apr-13 21:42:00

Yup. Just get rid.

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