My Dad is and has always been a hound. Consistently unfaithful to my mum, until just over ten years ago (about thirty years into their marriage) she said enough is enough and divorced him (he'd had an affair with a woman in her twenties, she was due to have his baby, he wanted to continue his affair but he still wanted to be married to my mum!). He justifies himself by saying that his wife is nothing to do with his girlfriends/ extra-curricular love life (no, he's not a French duke from the sixteen hundreds ).
Rewinding about twenty years, we had lived overseas but came back to the UK to live in my mum's home town. I remember my auntie popping around a lot uninvited, often she wouldn't leave and my parents used to moan about it. I remember her asking me how I would feel if I had another mummy. She's a funny character, very dishonest, and has a track history of cheating with her friends husbands (three of them!).
In the last few years, my aunt has made some hints to my mum, about my Dad and herself. Saying that about twenty years ago he showed up unexpectedly at her house and told her he was 'gagging for it'. She also mentioned another time when he came to the UK and visited her. Now, maybe they were good friends, but I remember him being uncomfortable around her and avoiding her; although at times they used to share a barbed joke.
She never told my mum more than this, and my mum who is a very quiet and guarded soul, has never asked her outright or asked her to elaborate. It really bothers me that my aunt and my Dad may have got away with it - but that likewise, maybe my mum is reading into things. My mum has been brewing on these words, but has not confronted my aunt: I feel like just asking my Dad outright if he did it. But, is it none of my business? Will he tell the truth?
Any advice would be great.
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Should I ask my Dad if he did have an affair with my aunt?
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Brodicea · 25/04/2013 14:20
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