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does anyone else's h/p do this (ps3 xbox etc)(42 Posts)
Been awake since half past 7 on the only day I can get a long lie.
P has been up since god knows what time playing on his ps3. He is 37.
He plays call of duty mainly and gets so wound up when he gets 'killed' that he flies into a rage screaming and shouting and throwing things around. He swears constantly at the game and it scares me.
I hate being in the same room as him when he is playing it because of the state he goes into. He has never been violent to me or DD but it's not nice to sit and listen to someone get so wound up over a game.
Does anyone else have this issue? I've told him it scares me and he laughs at me and tells me to leave the house if it bothers me that much. DD never seems that bothered about it she just seems to ignore it but I've seen her flinch a couple of times when he starts shouting.
It's getting beyond a joke. Hes not working at the moment so he is on his playstation from morning until night and if i want to watch telly I've no chance until he gets bored and goes to play on his phone. This also causes him to get angry if he's playing games on his phone and losing.
If you also have this issue, how do you deal with it? I'm 24 and 7 months pregnant. I'm going away out for the day before work because I'll be bored in my room all day if I don't.
Sorry if this sounds pathetic but im a nervous person and when someone gets angry and shouts etc even if it's not aimed at me, I get really upset.
Oh and my (nerdy) DP has a ps3 and when he was a single man he spent a lot of his free time on it but seeing as we're a family now it's for when there's really nothing better to do. Which happens maybe once a week for an hour. So no it's not normal behaviour.
Please listen to your family. This isn't a real man, this is a twat who thinks he has the right to treat you like a slave. he's sucking all the life out of you...and it'll get worse
Lisen to all the posters Paris
You may, or may not, need a man in your life..........
Point is, you haven't got one, have you ?
He sounds an angry and bitter man. Ane he lets it show when he is on his xbox.
Unless he makes moves to change and sort himself out I would be booking an appt with a solicitor.
This describes how my husband used to be
He started off just playing xbox "call of duty" then he joined a forum and started playing online with his friends from that forum. He also used to scream and shout at the tv.
You will noticed I said "how my husband used to be". He would also skype his friends. He would even skype on an evening when I was sat on the other sofa across from him. He would just ignore me.
I had my suspicions!
One day on maternity leave I accidentally
on purpose clicked the skype button. He had been chatting with this girl from the forum. Saying what he would like to do to her etc etc...you get the picture. I delved deeper into it and they had been sending semi-nude pictures to each other...I found all this out at 8 months pregnant!
When I was first pregnant he used to pick me up from work if he got home early enough himself...towards the end I had to make my own way home to come into the house to stare at the back of his head while he ignored me and played on this stupid game!
I confronted him (and her via email as she lived in Sweden otherwise she would have had a knock on the door - she actually apologised and told me she didn't fancy him anyway!!). I gave him a choice me or the xbox. Xbox no more...
I did forgive him eventually
but I made him work damned hard for my forgiveness.
I'm not saying that your partner has done this or will do this but please just be cautious if he joins any online forums for this game.
I hope you get things sorted out soon xxx
No, my husband does have a PS3 but he only goes on it when the kids are in bed and not even every night. Your husband is behaving like a child.
I was a single mum of 2 DCs and then I met and married my DH. Don't settle for this awful man because you fear you will be forever alone.
My DH loves Call of Duty. He doesn't play it when DD is awake. It is a violent 18 cert game so that would be extremely inappropriate. He also; cleans; works; does his share with DD; talks to me nicely.
He used to get too involved and swear. He was then told that if he is not enjoying it, he can stop. He either stops or stops swearing. He hasn't done that in ages.
Get rid, love. He's not going to change and he's a waste of oxygen.
Fuck me throw him out now, he sounds like an overgrown teenager and a massive cunt. As for ordering you about to clean YOUR FUCKING HOUSE whilst heavily pregnant and working 10 hour shifts whilst he sits on his arse WTF! I'm sorry if I sound harsh OP but how the fuck have you put up with this for so long?
Your family hate him and with good reason....he's a twat and you know it.
kick him out! you shouldnt have to leave your home! But, if you do leave turn the electric off! (i dunno how to but i'm sure theres a way!!)
Like everyone is saying, this is not normal behaviour. games here and there, yeah fine, but not all the time, provoking that reaction and when he doesnt work!!!!
my DP didnt let himself play games when he was out of work cos he felt he didnt deserve to lol your DH needs a kick up the ass, and you can do it!!!! x
I know that the thread has moved on, but to answer your original question - my DH had a playstation when we met. In his early twenties when he had a job but no other responsibilities.
It never saw the light of day once we had children and I think it pretty much tailed off after we moved in together (though I got a bit hooked on Tombraider for a while)!
Now we are in our early forties we have an xbox. For the children. And if anyone gets irate with it they are made to have a break. That is my normal.
I too just wanted to add that my ex was just like yours, in that I would go to work, leaving him on the Xbox, and come back to him on the bloody Xbox, but with a mess of crisp/snack wrappers scattered around him (couldn't even rip himself away to make himself a decent lunch!). If I dared ask him if he'd done anything else he would go really cold and say I was nagging him, I sounded just like his (controlling) mum (which would hurt as he often spoke about how awful she was) and he was entitled to 'do his own thing without a Spanish Inquisition'
He also did the screaming at the
stupid bloody inanimate TV and it would always make me jump and I hated it (and after I'd explained to him that after a very violent previous ex shouting made me feel awful). He never stopped. The worst thing? I BOUGHT him the bloody thing as we used to play on it together, occasionally, as something we both enjoyed!!
I swear that fucking thing was a big (but not the only) reason the relationship ended.
For a while after we split I would still go over to see our pet that lives there and he was still always on the thing. Even when he was seeing some next girl his housemate told me he would go into the living room and he would be on it and she would just be sitting there being ignored basically. (oh and he's 35)
Please leave him, it really sounds from what you say that you deserve more. You won't change him. If you leave him you can be happy doing what you want in your own space without having to jump every five minutes. I'm imagining you in a light airy living room, with whatever you want on TV (or NO TV!), just being happy. This is a stress you don't need in your life, you are young and who knows, if you aren't with him you leave a vacancy for a caring, fun man who you can go out and be in the sun with and have nice days out with (not at all saying you need a man, but just in my experience I have a wonderful partner now who is happy to go for walks with me, a small thing but a revelation compared to XP)
Sorry for the minor hijack but I really think I know at least part of how you must feel now (hug)
He's a cocklodger and is treating you like a slave, this is not the relationship model you want your DD growing up with surely.
We have an Xbox, PS3 and a Wii and my DH has never acted like that with any of the games he plays on there including COD and he doesn't play on it to the detriment of time with me and the kids.
Paris, I've just read your last thread about him - you kicked him out on 29th march for exactly the same reasons (he went very easily when your Dad got involved), its now 25th April and you say you took him back 'because he was homeless' and it was brilliant for 3 weeks - so he was only gone for a few days? Did he threaten to kill himself
again and you fell for it? Can you see what's happening here? This isn't the life you want or deserve, and you're not going to get that life unless/until you kick him a out again and mean it - no taking him back because you're sorry for him. Is he sorry enough for you to change his behaviour because he's making you unhappy? Hmmm?
My STBXH used to do this, throwing the controller across the room etc.
I kicked him out because he was a twat.
There is no need for anyone to be treated like this - his attitude is awful.
Aggression like that while playing games is not normal for anyone, let alone a grown man.
Think about your DD and baby here. He is not a positive role model for them and it is not good for them to grow up in such a hostile environment.
If I were you I would move back near your family - you would have plenty of support from them (more than you do now considering he doesn't do anything to help) and you will have this man out of your life.
Agree with the grain of the thread, I used to shout at games, then I turned 17. I don't get more animated than 'unimpressed face' these days, or maybe a good old sigh if I'm really stuck! Really, any adult should be able to keep a lid on any reasonable amount of frustration whatever the source.
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