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Dp been really off with me since going on a stag doo.

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whatapotatohead Tue 23-Apr-13 13:06:16

Dp went away this weekend on a stag doo. He came home on Sunday night and has hardly spoken to me sincesad
I was fine with him going away (actually looking forward to a few girly days with dd) and have been fine with him since he has been home, stayed up until he came home even though it was late and had to be up in the morning, had a beer and a snack waiting in the fridge for him when he got home. Nice meal prepared for last night...
He wouldn't come to bed on Sunday, stayed downstairs until I was asleep, hardly spoke to me last night and wouldn't come to bed again but stayed downstairs until 1am.
I have asked what is wrong with him but he just says he is fine then goes quiet again.
Don't want to keep asking him what's wrong but can't stand feeling like this.

Guerrillacrochet Tue 07-May-13 02:22:04

Read the comment. I am not supporting sex trafficking, or the Amsterdam red light district or those that go to stag weekends to seek out sex. If you want to read it that way and be outraged then fine. My DH wouldn't go to such an event because it is exploitative and when I've been to Amsterdam I haven't been to the red light area to have a gawp and look into dead eyes because I find it vile.
But this isn't a thread on whether prostitution in Amsterdam, London, Cambodia or anywhere else is acceptable or not, but some people seem to be spectacularly missing the point.
I am getting annoyed with myself now for arguing with someone I don't know about whether another person I don't know should tell a further person I don't know something she doesn't know. But I guess that's Mumsnet for you.

carmenelectra Tue 07-May-13 07:39:37

If I knew the bride then I'd tell her what I knew. I'd hope someone would tell me if I was about to walk down the aisle and a load of people knew I'd been well and truly mugged off.

However, she doesn't know her at all so I wouldntr say anything. I would not be going to the wedding though. All smiles and congrats. No thanks. Leave me out

Guerrillacrochet Tue 07-May-13 08:15:49

I agree carmen, I would have to cancel going.

It isn't just stag dos that are like that unfortunately. Plenty of hens cheat on their partners at hen nights. I don't see the need to get bladdered and act single before you get married to be honest. Surely you haven't done that the rest of the time you have been together so why the last night of things you will inevitably regret?! I mean, if you don't regret it then you're obviously marrying the wrong person.

I hope he doesn't give her an STD.

DH hates that sort of stuff as well OP - when he's been stuck in a crowd doing things like that he tends to text me or sneak off and ring me. He really doesn't like it. He was so worried about his mates getting carried away on his stag night that he made it local and took his father and uncle for protection.

Don't tell the bride, I know amongst dh's circle of friends this happens more often than you might think hmm

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