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I don't know what to do, I feel like I literally can't breathe

(9 Posts)

Why do you blame time for causing you to drift apart? Do you mean the way things have changed over time? Because all relationships change. Time itself cannot break a couple up, only how they fill that time. Look to the both of you to work out what is wrong, rather than blaming time. Maybe you can get it back, or maybe it has run its course.

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 22-Apr-13 11:05:30

You sound heavily (overly) dependent on this man OP. I worry that he 'showed you how to live' ... makes you sound like an Eliza Doolittle/Professor Higgins situation, not a relationship of equals. Setting you up in business makes me feel equally queasy. What has changed exactly and why are you blaming 'time'?]

BabyHMummy Sun 21-Apr-13 21:55:47

scarred in that case you need to talk. Do you want the relationship to work out?

f you do then maybe something like relate can help you?

But you do need to maybe ask yourself why he is all consuming in your life

Smartiepants79 Sun 21-Apr-13 21:41:21

If you love him and you think he is worth it you will have to fight for your relationship.
TALK to him.
Do you know how he sees your relationship, does he even have any idea that anything is wrong? Men aren't always very good at picking up in these things!

scarredpierced Sun 21-Apr-13 21:38:04

It's true he's all I know Solid
He does feel the same and definitely like life has taken hold of the sparkle Baby

If you are in that much of a state about it, then you would be better off dumping him and moving on. It sounds to me like you've outgrown each other and that this early relationship was a bit suffocating. You need to find out for yourself how to live, who you are, what you want, etc.

BabyHMummy Sun 21-Apr-13 21:35:29

It is possible but you need to talk to each other and work out why time has driven you apart.

Is it that you don't make time for each other?
Is ot that life has got routine and you need come sparkle back?
Does he feel same as you?

Suzietastic Sun 21-Apr-13 21:33:47

Have you spoken to him about this? If you've both just stopped trying then there is definitely hope. All relationships have low points xxx

scarredpierced Sun 21-Apr-13 21:30:45

I'm crying so hard, I feel like I can't breathe and think I'm going to be sick.

Things haven't been going right for a while now. We haven't had sex in so long. But I love him so much, it's not supposed to be like this, we're supposed to be happy, in love. We've been together 3 years, he was my first home apart from my mothers, I wear his engagement ring, he showed me how to live, he set my business up for me. Why can't things go back to how they were? How have we drifted apart for NO reason except stupid stupid time? Can we get back what we have lost? Please please say we can sad

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