Ok, I won't lie and say it was a bed of roses. We met via a mutual friend who seemed to think we would match. Initially I was wary of the distance- he lives over 2.5 hours away on a train. When we eventually met we got on but I didn't get over-excited, rather observed my feelings. A week or 2 later I passed on my details and we began a very long and friendly contact via email until our first date at a restaurant and then a hotel. It was really nice. I was a bit cautious and had a moment where I felt like I was in at the deep end. (as he was so keen).
When he left I received even more attention from him, saying he couldn't wait to see me again.....Fast forward two weeks and a conversation went something along the lines of 'Im not sure we are on the same page..'. he felt I wanted children because I mentioned it once or twice, his work is currently not permanent and he suddenly felt panic. he still wanted to meet for the weekend we had arranged but said we needed to be more cautious. The weekend together was very different from the previous date. he wasn't the affectionate self of the first date and at one point said he'd been thinking of moving away.
I felt upset and very disappointed. He felt the long distance thing didn't help because things like having children were brought to the fore way too soon. (he told me he'd like to have children initially, though I think I may have brought it up)
Our contact diminished and in the end I suggested curtailing a relationship. As I look back, most of my friends and family feel I have been far too involved and intense. This in't the first time a seemingly keen guy has backed off. It was like he just stopped being into me and any efforts seemed forced and empty. I feel awful and wonder if I will ever fall in love. I am mid thirties- no spring chicken. He was only slightly younger. My dating ettiquette is an area of concern as I seem to get totally carried away when I meet someone I really fancy. Friends say I just need to relax and have fun.
Any advice?
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