Same old story,long time user under new name, though I'm not sure why as it's a unique situation, so if anybody does recognise me, please don't out me.Also I am writing this on my phone, so please bare with me if it gets a bit messy in places.
My marriage is very much between three people. Not another women, but another man, DH best friend.
Dh and I have three children, DD1(8), DD2(3) and DS who is 6 weeks old, who was a twin to DD3, who died shortly after birth. Dh also has a son,who was born when he was 15, who will be turning 19 soon, and it's with his birth this whole mess began.
Dh has been DSS resident parent his entire life, his mother didn't take to motherhood very well ( understandable, with being so young I suppose) and throughout his childhood we didn't see much of her, and only now are the two of them starting to form anything resembling a relationship.
When DH was 17 he decided to move out of his parents home, but of course being so young found it difficult to work, take care of a toddler and finish chool. Thesis when DF stepped up to the plate and moved in with DH to help pay the bills and care for DSS, and to this day DF is still living with us!
I am actually very grateful for DF having lived with us these past years ( he technically lives in our pool house, behind our actual house) as this has meant that Dh was able to get his degree and become a professional, and by extension support me while I got mine, and I am positive we would't be living the life style we are with out him, but I feel it's time for all of us to move on.
Even after Dh and I we're married was always DF whose opion was asked for all things concerning DSS, while I was always positioned in a more sibling role with him, which is fine as DSS has the same relationship with them as I would assume a child raised by a gay couple would, he views them both as his parents ect but now Dh and DF seem to think he should have equal say in how we raise our children and, especially since DD3 died, I've got a real problem with this, i want certain decisions to be between Dh and me, and even when I ask him to keep something between the two of us, he is going to run right out and talk about it with DF.
DSS will be beginning University in America later this year, so naturally will be moving
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Sick of there being three people in my marriage
tatletale · 19/04/2013 01:28
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