I'm just wondering whats normal really. My last relationship was abusive and I remember thinking gosh he's very quick with his 'I love you's' he told me within the first month or so. Shocking now I think about it but that quite often is a tell tale sign of a controlling person, or clingy person it certainly wasn't normal now I look back although at the time I was flattered. I know everyones different but just wondering how long you were seeing your partner before they told you they loved you??
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when did your partner tell you they loved you?
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timetofaceit · 18/04/2013 22:06
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KatOD ·
18/04/2013 22:15
About a month, we had known each other through work for a few years though.
He managed to time it on the only night that my dad and brother have had such an enormous row that my brother stormed out and came to stay with me (and then spent a while wondering what sort of fighting pikey family he'd got involved with
).
11 years and a beautiful DD later he realised it was anomalous and bad timing...
Every relationship is very different though. My acid test was to wake up every morning and ask myself "are you happy", and if not move on. I wouldn't put too much on what is said (some people are more demonstrative than others and levels of sincerity can vary!).
Good luck.
vvviola ·
19/04/2013 10:40
DH told me about 5 weeks after we met. It was a long distance relationship, it was Valentine's Day. I was having a night in with the girls (all 4 of us in long distance relationships due to jobs/location), he was playing sport where he lived. He did some serious damage to his foot, rang me in flood of tears on the way to hospital and told me he loved me.
I didn't hold him to it until he said it again at a less stressful time 
BanjoPlayingTiger ·
19/04/2013 11:25
About 2 weeks. I was a bit 
about it all and said he couldn't possibly know. But 14 years and 2 kids later we are still very much together and very happy. And he isn't in any way controlling or clingy.
PiHigh ·
19/04/2013 11:37
5 days. Actually he said "I think I love you" but I put it down to him being about to get some 
. He knew I was 'the one' after about 6 months, we had a lovely day out and he said it had just clicked iykwim.
redadmiralsinthegarden ·
19/04/2013 11:41
just reluctantly dumped my boyfriend, after 14 months. when i asked him this morning 'do you love me?' he said 'I'm very fond of you, but I don't think I've ever loved anyone.'
I had thought that he DID love me, just wasn't able to say it. seems i was wrong though... 
YummyMummy17 ·
19/04/2013 11:42
DH had never been in love before me he didn't say it until about 8/9 months down the line, I knew he loved me before but it was massive step for him to say it 
x
badinage ·
19/04/2013 12:05
We'd known each other a while before dating, but said we loved eachother within 10 days of becoming a couple.
Which was, of course, absolute bollocks.
What we meant was that we were infatuated.
Looking back I'd say we properly fell 'in love' about 4-6 months later and properly loved eachother about 2 years in. Decades later we still do, but we both admit that we were talking utter hogwash in those early days
Lottapianos ·
19/04/2013 13:47
We really took our time. I would say I knew after a few months but nothing was said until we'd almost been together for a year! I had had a horrible phonecall from nasty demented ex-flatmate and was in floods of tears, and when DP was comforting me, he said 'please don't be upset. You're the best thing that's ever happened to me and I love you to bits'
And he's barely let a day go by since then without saying it at least three times
harleyd ·
19/04/2013 13:50
it took him 2 years to actually say it. and then within another 2 months we were engaged and now having a baby
CheeseStrawWars ·
19/04/2013 14:40
for you redadmiral. But for the best, by the sound of things. You deserve to be loved.
I think it was about 6 weeks in I told DH. He took a couple of days to think about it before he said it back! At least it showed he was taking it seriously rather than reflexively returning the sentiment...
neriberi ·
19/04/2013 16:04
It was after a couple of months.
We went out for a burger in Camden, we were talking about something random and I said "that's what I love about you", he said he felt that same, I said "what?" then he said "I love you" . All very unromantic, but then when he asked me to marry to him it wasn't a down on one knee thing, we were drunk and about to go to bed when he asked if I fancied changing my surname 
, we went to sleep and when I woke up in the morning he asked if I remembered last night and did I fancy it?
We've been together 7 years, married 5 and have a 2.5 DS.
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Coffee1Sugar ·
19/04/2013 16:27
3 months in he wrote "I love you" in the sand on Bournemouth beach
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