As title. He lives in his own bizarre little world with strange takes on everything. When I correct these, he gets aggressive. In advance of tomorrow's meeting he has sent me a spreadsheet with all he has spent on our 2 DCs last month.
Bear in mind DD is 21, at uni, with student loan & job. DS is 19, did A levels last year, now doing a BTEC. I have researched this & I think I am right in saying there is no more parental obligation to provide financial support. I have now responded to H to say as much & to say if he wishes to spend money on DCs that is at his discretion.
There is an underlying neurosis here: H has been under-employed for years, and by babying the DCs & trying to make himself needed gives him a sense of purpose. He will self-righteously point out what he is doing for DS (cooking, giving him money, taking him places) which in my view is turning DS into a loafer.
Other manipulation on H's part is he is trying to offset DCs costs against other financial obligations. But stuff he is claiming - a blouse for DD - I mean WTF?
I would really appreciate any support vis a vis the " no requirement to financially support DCs"
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Meeting estranged H tomorrow to discuss finance & I am freaking out
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Moanranger · 09/04/2013 14:33
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